When is the Right Time to Try for Another Baby?

African American ParentsIf you already have a child or children, and you want to have another, you might be wondering when the time will be perfect to have another. Should you start trying while your other children are very young, so that your baby will be close in age to their older siblings? Should you wait until your existing children are out of diapers, out of the toddler stages, or out of elementary school? The ‘right' time will be different for every couple, and there's no set answer for this question. However, there are some things you might want to consider before deciding to try for another baby.

Finances – This is one of the most important things to consider with your partner. Children are expensive; and like every great parent, you want to make sure your child has everything he or she needs. If you already have a steady, great income, then this might not be a question for you. However, if you're waiting for your finances to improve – finishing college, expecting a promotion, etc. – then it might be worth it to wait. Having more money as you expect your next baby can make you more comfortable and secure.

The Age of Your Existing Children – This is something many parents consider before deciding to have another baby. While some people agree that having children closer in age is better, others feel that significantly larger age gaps are better. Do you want more than one child in diapers at the same time? Do you want a large age gap, affecting the way your children interact with each other? It really comes down to the individual here. What do you feel is most appropriate? What would be better for your children?

Your Partner and You – How does your partner feel about trying for another baby? It's important that you're both on the same page. So it's something you'll want to discuss in depth. Both of you need to be emotionally prepared to welcome another baby into your family. If you know your partner is ready to take the plunge, it's up to you to examine your own emotions on the issue. Some things to consider about the issue include taking time off from work during the last part of the pregnancy, making room in the house for a new baby, arranging childcare if needed, and preparing your existing children for a new baby.

If you and your partner have considered all these points and you're confident that you can handle all aspects of having another baby, then the only thing left to think about is potential names. However, if you're hesitant because of one or more of the points made above, you should probably hold off until the conflicts are resolved. The decision of when to have another baby is a huge one, but by considering all aspects and looking at it from all angles, you'll be able to make the best decision for you and your family.

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When is the Right Time to Try for Another Baby?

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  1. Profile photo of Cait Cait says:

    I’m a little nervous because our first one was a surprise and now we are married and planning our second I wonder how my first daughter will feel when she’s older and realizes the difference between the two. Also I feel guilty because we had a fire last June and lost a lot of my pregnancy photos so I feel like if I have a bunch from the new baby then how will summer feel when I only have one or two of my pregnancy with her?

  2. Profile photo of Jamila says:

    I know for sure we are not ready for third child. At least not until we are financially stable and am working

  3. We are going to wait till my son is 1 year old to have our next one.

  4. Profile photo of KEIYONDA KEIYONDA says:

    TIMING IS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST WAY TO GO. IF WE PLAN EVERYTHING LIFE WOULD BE PREDICTABLE. WE ALL KNOW CHILDREN ARE FAR FROM THAT.

  5. Profile photo of Aiden Aiden says:

    Probably when the first one is 2

  6. Profile photo of Lulu Lulu says:

    I’d wait until my daughter was about 2 or 3 before even trying for a second child.

  7. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i have a 5 year old girl, 3 year old girl and 7 month old boy, and a 11 year old nephew living with us, my spouse does not want more children for a few years but i sort of would not mind having another boy soon, like how my girls are spaced so they can be close….

  8. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i have a friend who had a almost college student, a teenager, and this was at 40- then found out they were expecting, they love having their new addition- course she is older now….

  9. Profile photo of NEHA NEHA says:

    my first baby is 4yrs now and i am thinking for another child so that my babies will share a good bonding

  10. Profile photo of Amy Amy says:

    My brothers and I are three years apart and we are close. So I want my kids to be close also. I think two to three year age gap is good

  11. Profile photo of Bridget Bridget says:

    My mom had my youngest brother when she was 36. He is the apple of her eye. We all love him. If it’s what you want don’t second guess yourself!! 🙂

  12. Profile photo of Jeanetta Jeanetta says:

    I think I’ll wait until my daughter is 2 years before I try for another baby.

  13. Profile photo of Janice Janice says:

    If I were to have another baby, I would be planning, for every other year. That way the first child is on his feet, but not to old for the second child to have a play mate.

  14. I don’t think I want to do this pregnancy thing again… =P

  15. Profile photo of Kevryn Kevryn says:

    I currently have 2 boys who are 18 mos apart and we want to have another in the future. He is getting out of the military so i want us to be financially stable. it will be another 2-4 years

  16. Profile photo of Lacie O'Dowd Lacie O'Dowd says:

    my older (step) brother and i are only a year apart, and very close. but my younger (half) brother, by almost 9 years, is close with me, but has no common ground with our older brother, but i was around 24/7 and was a large part of his raising as both our parents worked demanding full time jobs. as we have all aged and reached adulthood we have found more common interests but while we were in school my older brother and i had much more in common. i have a 2 year old right now and will soon find out out if baby #2 is in the works, i think finding the right age gap will mystify every parent.

  17. Profile photo of Mandy Mandy says:

    I had my second child two years ago, I was 33. My oldest was almost 6. I love the age difference. He is great big brother. You are still young I don’t think people will think twice about you getting pregnant. Good luck!

  18. I am a teacher and am thinking/planning on getting pregnant in August so that my due date will fall right before the Summer Break. I have only one other child, a 9 yr. old boy. I am afraid of the whole pregnancy due to the fact that I am older now and am "afraid" of what everyone else may have to say. By the way I am a 31 yr. old school teacher and have been married for 10 yrs. Any suggestions or encouraging words?

    • Profile photo of Jennifer Jennifer says:

      31 isn’t even close to being “older” 🙂 plus it might be nice that your son is big enough that you don’t have to worry about chasing a toddler while you are pregnant . I’m sure everyone will be happy for you and if not, what they think doesn’t matter it’s what you both want.

  19. Profile photo of Julie Julie says:

    I don’t want another child right away, but I do want another child. Maybe a couple years after this one (who is due next month).

  20. Profile photo of Jessica Jessica says:

    My sons are only 16 months apart and my daughter will be almost 6 years younger than my youngest son, I hope they all get along ok!

  21. Profile photo of Alyssa Alyssa says:

    isnt it hard though when they are babies? Having them so close? My oldest is about to be one. and ill be 18 weeks tomorrow. Is it really that much easier to have them together. I mean sure they will be out of the house sooner. But still. lol

  22. Profile photo of OddRose OddRose says:

    My three oldest are 17 months, almost to the day, apart. None of them were planned either. My fourth was the first planned, and she is almost two years younger than her brother. I enjoyed having them close in age, because they play well together still today, they all started school close together. I now have a 5th, 4th, 3rd, and 1st grader. Plus, I was potty training the older one while the littler one was in diapers, which seemed ot help with motivating the older one.
    I am currently pregnant again, completely planned. Although I worry about her being so much younger than the other four, I know I will have a lot of help from the others. Also, after this child we are going to have one more so that it won’t seem like two separate families with the baby being an only child.

  23. Profile photo of lisa_iowa lisa_iowa says:

    Ours have come between 19 and 28 months apart. I actually prefer a shorter spacing as they are closer buddies to each other at all ages (baby through adult – I’ve got ’em all right now).

  24. Profile photo of Rosie2day Rosie2day says:

    We had all of our three years apart. It has been nice to space them like that because we only have on in diapers at a time.

  25. my son and daughter will be 3 years apart 🙂

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