Toilet Training for Twins
Raising twins gives parents twice the dose of everything, including potty training. You may have thought keeping up with one child learning to use the potty was hard enough, and now you are tackling two at a time. Truth is, it can be easier than you think! It seems that sibling rivalry can actually work in your favor in this case.
As with all potty training, look for signs that your child is ready. They should know when they are wet and show urgency when they need to go. Talking about big kid underwear and discussing the potty ahead of time will help them make the mental adjustment. Hopefully, both of your twins will show an interest at the same time. If they do, great! However, if they don’t, try not to push the one content with diapers too hard, which can set up ill feelings and some rivalry. Chances are, when they see their brother or sister using the potty and getting praised, they too will make up their mind to try it as well.
Regardless of how many bathrooms you have, it is wise to get two training potties. Why? Because, naturally, both of the kids will likely want to use the potty at the exact same time. If they each have their own, this will not be a problem. When you are potty training, you should ask your child every 30 minutes if they need to use the potty. If they say no, then wait and ask again in a half hour. If they say no again, coerce both the toddlers to come and try. Many parents use a reward system, giving gumballs or M&M’s with each success. If one of the twin’s uses the potty and the other does not, don’t make a big deal of it – but don’t give both the potty reward. One of the tricks in potty training any toddler is being consistent. If you can be home with your twins for a week, managing to get them in the potty once or twice an hour – you will be surprised how quickly they train. As they seem to be adjusting, tell them after a few days that you want them to tell YOU when they need to use the bathroom. This fosters independent thought and triggers long-term potty training success! Sure, you are going to have a few accidents along the way – but you should try hard not to make a big fuss over them. It is important to keep potty training, however frustrating, a positive experience.
You should also keep the twins in underwear rather than pull-ups for the potty training period. This way they learn to feel the wetness and associate it with their need to use the potty. Chances are you will be spending a lot of time in the bathroom, which makes it a good time to sit down on the floor and read with the twins as they use the potty. This also makes it fun so your kids won’t feel like they have to give up playtime just to use the bathroom. If one twin doesn’t need to go – allow the other twin to join you during the potty breaks. The more exposure they get to using the bathroom, the easier it will be.
If one twin is training more quickly than the other is, avoid using shame or comparisons to try and get the other one on board. Remember that just because they are twins doesn’t mean that they will do everything at the same time. If you have boy girl twins, you might find that one is easier to train at a time, especially because they use the potty differently.
If you see that the twins are doing well with potty training, you must make sure to be consistent with it during the day. Should you go out shopping or to a playgroup – allow the twins to go in underwear rather than diapers. You may feel anxious about this at first; however, as long as you talk about using the bathroom often – the kids will likely do just fine. Tackling twins and the potty doesn’t have to be harder…in fact, it can often work to your advantage. Just think of all the money you will save when you no longer have to buy diapers for two! If this isn’t incentive to potty train, I’m not sure what else is.