The Terrible Twos (They Really Aren’t So Bad!)

Little girl sticking her tongue outRemember that first year? You snuggled with your little one in your arms. You plopped them down and you sat and admired them. Most often, they sat there like a pumpkin. In a blink of an eye, it seems that they are now up and running. They are babbling, even saying a few words. They tell you when they don’t want something, but because their language is still developing, it’s a challenge to find out what they do want.

Welcome to toddlerhood. For the reasons above, the toddler years have been fondly referred to as the terrible twos. However, understanding them and their development will help you understand that the terrible twos aren’t so terrible at all.

Toddlers are just beginning to understand they are a separate little person. With this new-found identity, toddlers are striving to gain independence. They want to do it themselves, even if sometimes it is a struggle. If you’ve done any sign language, or even if you haven’t, this is the time where the word or sign for “help” can be a lifesaver. In order to sign “help,” make a fist with one hand, pointing the thumb up and then put your fist onto the palm of your other hand while saying “help.” Providing a toddler with a way to ask for assistance before they reach the point of frustration and meltdown will save you both a few tears.

Try to see the world from your child’s point of view. It’s easy to think they have it made. You love them, they play, you read, and they eat. However, as all this is taking place, they may be struggling to find independence. Begin with letting them make some simple decisions like choosing between two types of appropriate food choices or two shirts. Follow through with the choice they have made.

Be sure to keep perspective. Is it really a big deal if your little one insists on wearing the fuzzy red hat even though it is 70 degrees? Yes, keep an eye out for any safety concerns, but other than that, if they look silly, so be it. It will probably cause you, her, and many people to smile that day.

With a little bit of patience, a lot of flexibility, and a daily dose of love, toddlerhood will be just another fun step in the journey of parenthood.


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The Terrible Twos (They Really Aren’t So Bad!)

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  1. Marilyn says:

    I had experience with my little brother. It takes a lot of patience!

  2. PrettyBoogs says:

    We are hoping to learn sign language and use it with our little girl. We are looking into classes at the college and trying to find a time to make it work.

  3. Aimee says:

    I agree, lots of patience is needed with this age.

  4. diana says:

    not little but lots of patience lol

  5. Theresa says:

    Instead of terrible twos seems more like touchy twos, our daughter’s day isn’t complete without touching almost everything ! Although she knows when something is dangerous which we keep away from her !
    We love our little turkey…wait now she’s trying to touch the key board Lol.

  6. I can’t wait to have a toddler. I think they are fun at that age, even if they do have temper tantrums. I’m glad I have these tips to help with the melt downs! =] Thanks!

  7. ChrisS says:

    The "help" sign language does work a lot and so as "I want more" or just "more" sign language.

  8. photocam says:

    I used some signlaunguage with my older son, i do believe it has helped me eminsly. if he want’s milk or even if he is thirsty he signs it, and i dont have to guess. he has basicaly skipped his terrible twos. the only problem we have no is his listening. lol. lets just say it’s signlaunguage for my younger son.

  9. Emily says:

    My daughter will be 21 months in a few days and we have hit the terrible two’s hard! She went from this sweet, innocent little girl to this little girl who is mean, has tantrums, throws things, and just downright does not listen. We’ve tried punishments of different kinds and ignoring bad behavior and only rewarding the good she does. Nothing is working. I’ve tried to work with her on signing, but she seems to be refusing to do it. I sign the basics everytime I hand her a drink or tell her I love her. So, hopefully, she’ll grow out of it soon and things will be back to normal. It did for my 8 year old when she was that age.

  10. Sami says:

    I guess I’ve been lucky my son is now 2 and half and the terrible twos are just starting

  11. hotmom99 says:

    My daughter Emily has been in the "terrible twos" since she turned a year old last year. I am hoping that they go away when she actually turns 2.

  12. brittany says:

    My son is only 20 months and the "terrible" twos seem like a very real possibilty for us, hello tantrums!

  13. my daughter never really went through the "terrible" part… praying that i get the same luck with my son, lol.

  14. Elizabeth says:

    They ARE that bad sometimes!! Good thing they are so cute, too!

  15. angelyne says:

    omg!! whn its called terrible twos believe it my son was calm untill he got to his 2nd bday he completely change but now he 3 yrs old and he gets a lilttle tantrums sometimes but not lik the terrible twos

  16. ana says:

    Will see how my boy turns out he’s only 3 months

  17. Mandy says:

    Totally, the same thing happened to my daughter.

  18. Th "terrible twos" hit my daughter at 1 1/2. She is getting better at talking no that she is almost 2 and 3 months due to her vocabulary getting much better. She has her days though…lol…all children do. There are negatives and positives to every age and I wouldn’t change it at all…just wish I could slow down the perfect days 🙂

  19. Toyiet says:

    I don’t have any problems with my son yet. I started giving him choices of things when he turned two and when his talking started getting much easier for us to understand. I have a lot of patience with him and my 8 yrs old daughter. He gets frustrated with us if we don’t understand what he is saying sometimes because he still blurs his letter sounds like his s’s and t’s and f’s and r’s. but i usually tell him to show me what he’s talking about. Hopefully, it doesn’t get too bad when he turns 3 in Aug…

  20. Seity says:

    That first year was miserable. So, glad when he got older. I never want to deal with a baby again. I much prefer him as a toddler.

  21. Jacqueline says:

    He listened so well until his birthday hit and it’s like a total new child!

  22. Rosie2day says:

    I didn’t have too much trouble till they were almost three.

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