The First Father’s Day for the Expectant Dad
Write a letter to your child, build the crib, paint the nursery, or start a special family ritual that you can carry out this Father's Day and continue each and every year of your life.
The life of an expectant father is filled with ups and downs, and perhaps a lot of secret anxiety about what the future might hold. For many dads, they sit quietly on the sidelines, carting the mom-to-be to doctor's appointments, baby showers, and worst of all — baby superstores, where cash and savings can magically disappear like dew on summer grass. Few people ask him what he thinks, and the entirety of attention is placed on the woman. Fathers are just expected to be strong, tender, humble, and ever so patient when a hormonal mood swing hits like a tsunami. Bless them all. However, on Father's Day it is vastly important to celebrate the role of a father in a child's life, express appreciation, and give thanks to the man in your life who has made it all possible.
If you scan the Hallmark aisles, you will see that there is a tiny section of Father's Day cards for the dad to be. Many joke about the ‘impending doom' of having a child, or poke fun about life as you know it, being over. To some degree, all of that is true. The birth of a child changes things drastically and the changes that will take place from this Father's Day to the next will be immense.
Many men are slow to change. While a woman, faced with pregnancy and immediate responsibility for another life, will hatch maternal instinct overnight, for dad it isn't always so easy. Sadly, this can be a tumultuous time in a relationship as well. While mom has been double dosed with pregnancy and motherhood, for dad the thought of being a father still seems sort of far off. It is important to recognize that the father-to-be is also thinking about the future. Many men dream of having a son, or worry about taking care of a daughter. Many men spend pregnancy thinking about their own fathers. their own childhood, and they may begin making mental checklists of things they will want to emulate or change. And while a sarcastic world makes jokes about fatherhood being the ‘end' of everything from frequent sex to nights out with the boys, the majority of men feel as if it is a beginning. The trick is getting them to talk about it and allowing them to feel included in an event that often, until birth, is a ‘members only' venue.