Staying at Home – Pro’s and Con’s

staying-at-home-pros-and-consMost of us would love to stay at home and take care of our kids, but doing so requires some careful considerations. Besides the obvious financial factors, there are many other things to think about, and you should take the time to do this, or you or your spouse my find yourselves resenting the choice down the road.

Pros of Staying Home with Your Children

  1. You get more time with your kids – you can watch them develop into little human beings, instead of catching glimpses here and there.
  2. You get to teach them – instead of relying on daycare to teach them the basics: potty training, sharing, manners, and the building blocks of language – you have full control.
  3. You get to interact with other parents. Sometimes the best way to get over a parenting challenge is to see how other parents are doing it, and you'll find that there is a whole community of stay at home moms and dads out there.
  4. You know where your kids are. At any time of any day you will know exactly where they are, instead of wondering while at work.

Cons of Staying Home with Your Children

  1. You find it hard to make ends meet – cutting out an entire salary can be too much for some families to bear, even without having to pay for daycare.
  2. You can't get time to yourself – there's no lunch or coffee break when you are a stay at home parent, and by the end of the day you can get pretty worn out.
  3. You feel like you do ‘everything' – from taking care of the kids to laundry, meals and grocery shopping, which can create tension and resentment between you and your spouse.
  4. You miss your job – some of us have jobs that are very rewarding, and fill a niche for us that we can't get at home.

Consider each of these pros and cons and have an action plan for how you and your spouse will handle each of them should they arise. A part time job could help you with cons #1 and #4, while a well-balanced schedule of chores and down time may alleviate the frustration of the other two. Additionally, there's no rule that you have to stay home forever, so commit yourself to a year and then go from there. Even if you choose to go back after that year you have still given your child a great head start in life.

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Staying at Home – Pro’s and Con’s

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  1. Hannah says:

    I love being a SAHM. It has been wonderful. I have been there for all three of thems first everything. They are home with me and I get to teach them and be there for them and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. And as for the money part with what it costs for day care for three kids all day we are money ahead with me staying home because between gas and daycare what I made at my old job wouldn’t cover it. And another plus with me being here all the time my husband was able to get custody of his son from his first marriage. I personally feel that if you have a baby it is your responsibility to be the one to take care of that child I realize that its not always possible like for single parents but to me part of todays problem with kids is that they didn’t get the undivided parent attention when they were younger by being in daycare so they are less respectful than past generations when they were at home with their parents.

  2. mommy nhoj says:

    Pros are indeed rewarding. Among the cons, I am more of #4 and slightly #3. I miss my job. I miss being stressed by its demands! But hey, I cannot let the milestones of my first baby leave me behind!

  3. JakesMom says:

    Being a SAHM has been a joy and a challenge. I love my child and thankfully my job permits me to work from home, but as the article stated, it feels like I never get a break. I do my paying job and when I am done with that I am doing my fulltime non-paying job (being a mom). It is exhausting and frustrating and rewarding. Some me time is much needed.

  4. Tawnia says:

    I’m a SAHM and have been for almost 3 years but i was the working mom for 6 years before that. Kids are 8, 5, 1 and another on the way so child care is really not worth it. When I worked husband stayed home, now he works, I stay home. I do miss breaks, for 15 – 30 mins no one could bother you lol and adult conversations were nice but watching the kids grow is pretty amazing. The baby and I take naps while the older two are at school

  5. Amanda Augur says:

    I agree with this article completely! I love that I get to spend so much time with my son. But, it is hard to make ends meet and i feel like I do everything and get no time to myself.

  6. Heatherly says:

    It’s funny how people think stay at home mothers sit around all day huh????

  7. Heatherly says:

    I absolutley agree with the pros and completely disagree with the cons. I was a selfish young mother back in the early 90’s…missing my job because people "appreciated me." Give me a break. My life on earth is not so I can be appreciate. If my baby poops on my hands, cries all night, or if my boys wrestle all day long (oh dear this is so true) and I never get thanked, I won’t have a pity party anymore. I’m raising our future generation.
    If you don’t think you can afford it, how can you afford cable? Or desserts? Or new clothes? There are sacrafices to staying at home….but many more rewards! Oh, you’ll get time to yourself when they are married and/or moved away from home. 🙂

  8. Hipmom808 says:

    I love being a stay-at-home! We had a bad experience with our first babysitter so now, I am at peace knowing my kids are safe at home with me 🙂 it’s definitely a hard job! I never can just sit around, like people think you can do, your constantly on your feet and trying to find fun ways to keep your kids active 🙂

  9. Amy says:

    Being a SAHM is great but sometimes you feel a need some time to yourself

  10. Anastacia113 says:

    I love being a stay at home Mom and don’t want a job until my babies can talk so I have a little ways to go.

  11. Valerie says:

    I’m gonna be a stay at home mommy(:

  12. Brittney says:

    I’ve been staying home since my son was in he was born in Feb. It is a hard job, 24/7 7 days a week job. But I love it. I wish I was more appericated for what I do. I take care of my son all day, clean the house, take care of the dog, and get crap for not having a real job. We do need some extra cash flow, so I’m thinking about getting a part time job in the evenings/nighttime. So my BF can watch him while I work for a few hours, and the baby will mostly stay asleep.

  13. Terri Beck says:

    I just started staying at home because I just had a baby who is two months old and a daughter that is 19 months and I would rather raise my kids than count on someone else to do half the job and they get paid

  14. dschlitter says:

    I have loved staying home with my children. It’s alot of work! So worth it and very rewarding!

  15. Sexy_Momma says:

    I love staying at home with my 2 month old son, I get to watch him grow day by day

  16. Rachel says:

    Staying home with my daughter is great and I wouldn’t trust another to keep her during the day (she has special needs), but another adult to converse with about something OTHER than the kids is always nice too! It reminds you that you are still a person, not JUST a mom! The problem can be finding that other adult…..still working on that one….

  17. Jackie says:

    I wish I could meet more parents to hang out with I. Don’t have the funds to go out and meet other moms and dads, and I do miss having some me time!

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