What Real Couples Argue About During Pregnancy
Relationships are hard work and if you've been in a long term one, you'll know that even the strongest partnerships have troubling times. Some years are the best and others you find challenging as you communicate through issues and struggles.
For me, times of change and seasons of new things tend to put added pressure on my marriage. We've been through a lot together in the past 15 years and pregnancy and new babies have been times were we've had to buckle down and get through it together.
During pregnancy, you're going through a lot of physical changes and as the woman, your body is the one doing so much work. With such a big change on the horizon, issues and concerns can bubble up in a relationship and become a talking (or arguing) point in your partnership.
I asked several women and an expert about arguments arose during pregnancy – so we can all see that we're not alone and this season can be hard for all.
“With us, the big debate was always about parenting styles. He's very American and I was born and raised in India. I was happy to defer to childhood rituals and concoctions that I had learned from my mother and he was more adamant about reading up on the latest scientific research on everything! In the end, it's about finding a compromise and balance.” — Kaamna Bhojwani-Dhawan, Founder + CEO Momaboard.com
Diet and Nutrition
“Pregnancy was a really great time for my husband and I, but the one point of contention we kept butting heads on was what I should eat while pregnant. I'm a vegetarian and he's not, but with plenty of support from my doctor and as the CEO of Peas of Mind, a healthy kid's food company, I won that argument.” — Jill Litwin, Founder/CEO Peas of Mind
Communication is Key
“In my opinion, men and women worry about different things while expecting a child, but don't often communicate those worries with each other or argue about them. Men are more likely to worry about finances, their autonomy and their sex life while women worry about changes in their relationship, their work status and any changes associated with that and their bodies. It is after baby comes that couples are blindsided by the intensity of the transition. Disagreements are many and include role and identity changes, division of labor around the house and how to prioritize time and money. This is a time of scarcity and couples end up scorekeeping while they scratch and claw for the limited resources.” — Hilary Silver, LCSW, Relationship Expert, Owner | Silver Therapy & Coaching
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