Why You Need to Talk More with Your Partner After Baby
Expanding your family and welcoming a child into your relationship is a super exciting time. There are so many new things you'll get to experience together and a world of wonder ahead of you. There will also be a lot of new responsibilities, stresses, and hard times that can rock even the most solid of partnerships.
Early on, you'll be faced with sleep deprivation, healing from pregnancy and birth, and a surge of hormones going from one end of the spectrum to the next. The first few months of a new baby were always the most challenging for me — and for my relationship.
If you're about to welcome a new baby to your family, or you just have, now is the time to really focus on communication with your partner. I talk to my husband all the time about big issues and little everyday things, but after welcoming a new baby, I learned that talking more often was necessary to the health of our relationship.
It allows less room for misunderstandings.
Have you ever heard from your partner that they're not a mind reader? I have, and it's because I wasn't opening up to my husband about what was bothering me. Once we made talking more of a priority — whether it was talking about the kids, our day, or bigger things, like our future — it opened the lines of communication, and we had a lot less room for those “why aren't you reading my mind” moments.
You can problem-solve together.
When I am having an issue at home, talking about it with my husband helps us brainstorm solutions together. In the past, I had kept the questions I was having with the kids to myself, but in doing so, I started to hold on to built-up stress, and that didn't do anyone any good. I thought my husband knew the stress I had at home, but his being away at work for nine-plus hours each day and expecting him to understand was not reasonable.
When I started to talk to him more — letting him in on what was stressing me out — we were able to speak about it and come up with solutions together. I felt supported, I let go of a lot of stress, and the solutions really worked.
You're reminded why regular dates are important.
If you're waiting for the opportunity to be spontaneous and surprise your partner with a night out, you'll be waiting too long. Sure, scheduling alone time isn't as sexy as spur-of-the-moment fun, but that alone time is so essential for keeping your partnership healthy.
Make time in your calendars, mark it off, and keep to your schedule for regular date nights. It doesn't have to be complicated, but aim for at least once a week if you can.
Did you find talking more with your partner helped after your baby was born? Share in the comments.