Mom Confessions: My Husband Drives Me Crazy When …

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Parenting is the world's hardest job, followed by marriage. When I became a mom, I had no idea just how much of a strain it would put on my marriage. The sleepless nights, the constant whining, the tantrums, and the lack of time for myself was a huge transition. It also changed my relationship with my husband.

No longer was it just the two of us. There were no more spontaneous trips to the mall, dinner, and a movie. A baby changed everything. Don't get me wrong, not all of it was bad. My heart swelled every time I saw my husband snuggle our newborn son. My love grew deeper for him when he became a father.

It was just the other things that drove me crazy.

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Now, three kids later, we have even less time for each other. There are even more tantrums, fights to break up, and bad behaviors to deal with. Sometimes, we disagree with each other's parenting styles. I'm realizing that marriage is hard. But marriage with children is much harder. It turns out I'm not alone on my feelings and struggles. Other moms were more than happy to chime in. What did they say?

I know that he's perfect for me–I get it. But there are some times when my husband absolutely drives me up the wall. I have a confession to make …

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“[He] comes home, heads straight for the bathroom, and closes the door. All I can think is ‘Wow, what's THAT like?' ” – Mama M, mom of 1 boy

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“He says he needs a break from work, while I am holding a screaming baby.” – Mama 1, mom of 2 boys

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“[He takes] multiple 30-min. bathroom breaks while I make dinner, work on homework with my oldest, break up arguments, etc. Must be nice! He gets mad when I call him out on it. (And we both work, so it's not like he just needs a break after working all day!)” – Mama J, working mom of 2

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“How about when I came home from being in the hospital with a c-section and my husband had introduced our 3-year-old to wrestling … and body slams? Thanks honey.” – Mama S, mom of 3, including a newborn

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“My husband bribes my children with candy. It drives me crazy! The worst was when he bribed them with the candy while we were at the dentist's office. My mouth dropped open, and I was speechless.” – Mama M, mom of 4 boys

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“My husband sure does come home from work and sits down. He turns on the TV or gets on his iPad instead of asking me what help I need, as I'm getting dinner ready.” – Mama C, mom of 2

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Mom Confessions: My Husband Drives Me Crazy When …

Mindi is a working mom with three boys ages 4, 2, and an infant (born June 2013). She spent her first 8 years of her career in Speech-Language Pathology at a Children's Hospital. She currently works with adults and children in home health. The real fun for her happens when she is at home with her boys, chasing them around and pretending to be a super hero. She blogs about life as a working mom at Simply Stavish. Her weekly feature, Words in the Sand, teaches parents how to grow their child's s ... More

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  1. As an involved and active dad who served as the primary caregiver for our family for 20 years, I would like to share my thoughts about the constant criticism of dads the public continues to hear and read in articles such as this one you wrote.

    I wish you’d take a moment to replace the word “dad” with “mom” and also replace the list of complaints about your husband with those a dad might list about a mom, then read it and see how the article makes you feel. (I have yet to find an article written by a dad who criticizes his wife and mom of the children to the extent articles such as this one does to dads.)

    Did you ever give this a thought – that your “maternal gatekeeping” and constant criticism prevents and/or discourages your husband from helping with the parenting duties? So what if he doesn’t do it the way you want it done. Let him learn just like you had too by trial and error.

    How would you feel if you received this kind of constant criticism from your mother or mother-in-law?

    Did you ever give thought to how your child(ren) would feel if they read this article you wrote about their dad?

    And women accuse men of being inconsiderate and insensitive!

  2. Nicole says:

    My husband and I usually work opposite shifts, which is nice for our son. But when hubby complains about having the baby all day and then having to go to work is too hard. Well mister, I worked all day and had the baby all afternoon, evening, and night. 😛

  3. Tiffany says:

    He will sleep through the night (our infant only gets up at night to breastfeed) and then says during the day, “I need a nap.” Well, I believe someone else needs it more than you buddy. I told him that for the sake of my sanity, he needs to not say that to me.

  4. Sheena says:

    Parenthood is the greatest experience I’ve ever had and I believe my greatest achievements are my two children…. Having said that; it’s very difficult wondering if you’re making the right choices and setting positive examples for them! My husband and I don’t have much alone time since we’ve became the parents of 2 toddlers, but we try our best to show them what a “healthy marriage” looks like. We’ve also had to learn to make special time for just momma and daddy, it’s not as often as we’d like, but we definitely know that when we do get to have actual adult convo with one another we need to take complete advantage of our time!! ….. This my advice to any parents, no matter what age your children are.

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