Honoring Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day with Your Rainbow Baby

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is honored every year on October 15th as a way to honor and celebrate our babies who are no longer here. It's a wonderful way to give back to the community in a positive way in honor of your child and help spread awareness and support for others grieving loss.

In the child-loss community, a “Rainbow Baby” is a child who has been born after the child you lost due to miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal or infant loss. And while they in no way replace the child(ren) you lost, it can be very healing for a family. If you have a Rainbow Baby in your family, teaching them about the importance of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day can be very healing as a parent, to see the memory of your older child live on, and it can teach your child a lot about compassion and love.

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If you're looking for ways to incorporate your Rainbow Baby into your Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day plans, there are some positive ways to get the whole family involved.

Pay it forward

Have you heard of the “pay it forward” movement? You do something good for a stranger and ask them to randomly do something nice for someone else? Doing this in honor of your baby who passed away is something you and your Rainbow Baby can do. Take a toy to the park and have your child pass it on to another child, pay for someone's meal at a restaurant and say it was from your child, or donate some books to the local library in honor of your children.

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Talk to your Rainbow Baby about their sibling

Sit down with your Rainbow Baby and talk to them about their sibling who passed away. Look at photos, share memories, and talk about what they looked like, what your hopes were for them, and the story of their however-short life. It's a great way to open the conversation for you to honor and remember and a great way to bring your child into the conversation.

Plant a garden, volunteer your time, and give to charity

One great way to honor your child for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is to do something good — planting a garden, volunteering your time at a local charity, providing a monetary donation, or giving items to charity are great ways to honor your child. This is also a wonderful thing to do with your Rainbow Baby in tow, to teach them about your baby, the benefits of spreading good, and a positive and happy remembrance to your child.

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Go to a special remembrance place

Take your Rainbow Baby to a spot that reminds you of your child: their memorial grounds, the place you first felt them kick, or some other special space. Spend the day there together, soaking in each other's company and being present. Pack a picnic, a few games, and spend a wonderful day together in honor of your child.

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Honoring Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day with Your Rainbow Baby

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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