DudeMom Life: What Moms Want Their Sons to Know About Being Men

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Raising sons is mostly about fun and being OK with really bad smells, but it's also about helping these dirty-handed dudes grow into spectacular men.

Trustworthy, hardworking, compassionate, intelligent men (who are also crazy good looking and funny, too) who can lead happy, independent lives. And if one of these men so desires, he can find a really wonderful (and by wonderful, I mean open to mother-in-law sleepovers) woman to marry and make lady babies with.

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I asked some of my favorite Dude Moms in the parenting game what Mom want their sons to know abut being good men. Here's what they had to say …

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I want my sons to know that …

“the color of their skin doesn't make them scary or bad, it just makes them them. That being a man means being responsible for your actions. And that honor and chivalry are still a thing, even though having a wife to clean your house and birth your baby is not.” -Amanda R., DudeMom, three sons, 12, 9, & 6

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I want my sons to know that …

“they don't need to be strong all the time. I think a good man is able to express his feelings, but is still a strong man.” -Christina S., Mom's Messy Miracles, raising two sons

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I want to teach my son …

“you will grow up to be a white man in America. This is pure luck, not an indication that you're better than anyone else. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.” -Rebekah C., Stay At Home Pundit, raising one son & one daughter

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I want my sons to know that …

“good men treat women with respect and not like they're objects. Good men let the women know they're loved and behave like gentlemen.” -Mimi B., Woven By Words, raising two sons and one daughter

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I want my sons to know that …

“even though it's important to work hard, it's important to love even harder–themselves, each other, their significant others, and those who may be less fortunate or different from them.” -Ashley P., I Love You More Than Carrots, raising three sons

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I want my sons to know that …

“good men come in all colors. Don't let the world define who you are by what you are (race). Exhibit leadership and integrity from boyhood to manhood, and the ‘great' will follow.” -Keonte S., Mommy, Two, Kay, raising two sons

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I to teach my son that …

“being a good man means having compassion for others. You never know what that other person is going through. Also very important: relationships require a mutual respect from each other. Relationships require continual nurturing. Lastly, saying you're sorry means the world. [That's] something I've learned and have to continue to work on.” -Pam S., Housewives of Frederick County, raising one son

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I want my sons to know that …

“kindness trumps everything else. Always, ALWAYS choose kindness.” -Katie S., Sluiter Nation, raising two sons (and another baby on the way)

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I want my boys to know that …

“generosity is important. I want them to share their time, their love, their knowledge, their wealth, their everything.” -Sarah L., The Online Mom, raising four sons and one daughter

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I want my sons to know that …

“you should never play mind games when you're ready to date. Girls don't appreciate the ‘three-day rule.' Your Abba (Dad) was straightforward with me when we started dating, and he never made me guess how he felt about me. If you like a girl, make it clear to her, and if you don't, be honest and don't string her along.” -Melissa, Merryland Girl, raising two sons and a daughter

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I want my son to know that …

“women are crazy. At 7 years old, it's easier than saying women are hormonal, emotional, illogical beings but they'll love you to the ends of the earth. He gets the general idea.” Fadra, All Things Fadra, raising one son

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What do you want your son to know? Please share in the comments!

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DudeMom Life: What Moms Want Their Sons to Know About Being Men

Amanda has been wowing the Internet since 2008 when she launched her pretty-much-useless guide for parents, parenting BY dummies. As it turns out, her parenting advice is not generally useful for more than a good laugh, but sometimes that’s exactly what you need! Amanda spends her offline time (which is embarrassingly limited) running a photography business, working as a social media director for a local magazine, writing freelance articles about stuff she loves, wrangling her 3 little Dudes ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Jacqueline Jacqueline says:

    I want my son to know that just because he is the man in the relationship doesn’t mean he won’t get hurt. Women string men along too, and he should be ready for that. Find a good girl who is kind and whom will love you for you. Don’t try to change to please her. BE yourself and the right girl will find you!

  2. Profile photo of Deziree Deziree says:

    Ugh #4…?! What the hell does telling your son he’s going to be a white man in America and that makes him lucky mean?? So my son being Puerto Rican means he’s unlucky? I would rethink your racist comment before he thinks he’s better than another just based on his skin color. #Ignorance

    • Profile photo of Megan KlayEditor Megan Klay says:

      Hi Deziree – The rest of what she says is, …”not an indication that you’re better than anyone else. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.” Sorry if you interpreted her comment to mean something that wasn’t intended.


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