Why {Almost} 40 is Fabulous

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Image via Galit Breen

It’s my birthday week—and I do mean week. There will be absolutely no tears shed about years gone past, gray hairs appearing, or the laugh lines that have joined them.

I love birthdays.

I see this love in my children. They plan for next year’s birthday almost as soon as this year's ends. They revel in a day made to celebrate them, and I think they’re on to something.

We spend our first decade twirling our way through birthday plans and gifts and parties.

Our second decade is spent negotiating what we want with what we think everyone in our lives expects us to want. 

And our third decade is spent—at least in my case—maneuvering between my wants and those of my family. 

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But decade four? I have a good feeling about you.

I look in the mirror, and I like what I see. I’m at a resting place with my looks, my body, my career, my friendships, my personality, quirks and all. I can let go of the expectations of my youth and toast to the freedom of now and the possibilities of tomorrow.

I look in the mirror, and I like what I see. I’m at a resting place with my looks, my body, my career, my friendships, my personality, quirks and all. I can let go of the expectations of my youth and toast to the freedom of now and the opportunity of tomorrow.

I’m not afraid to check  a new box in forms, although I do forget how old I’m turning sometimes! It turns out that it’s 38—38 is my number this year, and I love it.

Five women’s birthday gifts to me are sharing what has been fabulous about being in their 40s. As it turns out, things are only going to get better and better.

Forties, here we come!

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Image via Vikki Reich

Vikki Reich writes about the intersection of contemporary lesbian life, parenthood, and pop culture at her personal blog Up Popped A Fox.

About why her 40s have been fabulous, she says, “If I had to choose one word to describe my 40s, it would be peace. I have come to truly accept myself—my appearance, my gifts, and my flaws. Because of that, I am kinder to myself and others because I'm not trying to prove anything or be everything to everyone.”

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Image via Tracy Morrison

Tracy Morrison is a writer, eater of dark chocolate, mom of three, and has a husband who claims that he saved her from an “old cat lady” life. She blogs about the lighter side of parenting at Sellabit Mum.

About why her 40s have been fabulous, she says, “I admit to being sad as I've gone over the hump of halfway through my 40s, because I love being in my 40s. My body has never been stronger and my mind never sharper. I feel like I've been able to make my 40s my own – both personally and professionally while still raising a young family. My daughters love my lines and my gray hair because they are part of their mother – and I see myself in their warm smiles and never ending hugs – not in what the mirror may reflect. My 40s have made me not want to be defined by beauty but my strength, and being a good person. And teaching the next generation what's really important. And for me that's not botox – it's just being more gentle and accepting of the natural beauty that comes with each year lived.”

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Amanda Magee blogs at The Wink about her dance with tears, irreverence, and hope in the midst of three daughters, a husband, and a whole lot of ambition.

About why her 40s have been fabulous, she says, “Forty never scared me, but when it came, it came with ferocity. And animal print. Turning forty has provided me with the license to wear whatever puts a spring in my step, and let me tell you, sometimes that might mean wearing an ‘I know better' face as I walk away from people who aren’t worth my time.”

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Image via Denise Ullem

Denise Ullem is the blogger behind Universal Grit, a canvas where she explores both the gritty and the beautiful parts of life. 

About why her 40s have been fabulous, she says, “What's fabulous about being forty? So, so many things. But I guess, for me, the best perk is that I get to keep on waking up and trying it again. I am here! And while I'm here, I have the benefit of 40 years of life to lean on and guide me. When looking at my life, I've cultivated a much clearer view about how how I want to spend my days and [now I] have the confidence to do just that.”

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Image via Kerry Rossow

Kerry Rossow blogs at HouseTalkN where she shares house tours, house histories, and the stories that go on inside those houses. She believes that just like us, every house has a story.

About why her 40s have been fabulous, she says, “When I turned 40, the floodgates opened. After being in the classroom for 18 years, I decided to hang up my teaching hat and chase my dreams. I created a blog, co-authored two anthologies, went to Haiti, and started a live show by, for, and about women. Turning 40 was the best wake-up call I have ever answered.”

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Why {Almost} 40 is Fabulous

Galit Breen is the bestselling author of Kindness Wins, a simple guide to teaching your child to be kind online; the TEDx Talk, “Raising a digital kid without having been one”; the online course Raise Your Digital Kid™; and the Facebook group The Savvy Parents Club. She believes you can get your child a phone and still create a grass-beneath-their-bare-feet childhood for them. Galit’s writing has been featured on The Huffington Post; The Washington Post; Buzzfeed; TIME; and more. She liv ... More

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  1. mommy nhoj says:

    Whew! As the saying goes, life begins at 40! By the way, happy birthday! May you have a good one! 😉

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