9 Pregnancy Milestones No One Tells You About

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I know, I know. We should all just be grateful to have healthy babies, and I assure you that nothing else is most prominent on my mind. I pray every day for the health of this baby I'm carrying and the babies that have even grown too large for me to carry. (Sob.)

That being said, however, grateful as I am, pregnancy doesn't exactly come easily or gracefully for me.

Which is why I depend on these little-talked-about pregnancy milestones to get me through to the end …

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The first day you make it through without puking.

While the pregnancy books and articles like to make you think that you magically wake up on the day that you hit 12 weeks, completely cured of morning sickness, it doesn't exactly work that way. Instead, you may find yourself cursing all the “what to expect” advice out there when you've passed well into the second trimester without a puking reprieve in sight.

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But I assure you, if you're one of the lucky ones, there will come a day, somewhere around the 15-week mark, when you find yourself sitting down to dinner and looking around in amazement when you realize, “Hey! I don't feel sick!”

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The day you finally give up and buy the maternity clothes.

“Oh, I don't need those maternity shirts!” you may think to yourself somewhere in the first trimester. “Surely, I'll be one of those women who barely show when I'm pregnant.”

But happy will be the day when you finally admit defeat and slide into one of those cool, comfortable maternity shirts and revel in the elastic panel of a good maternity jean. And you will realize, much to your horror, how you have apparently been holding your breath for the last month of your life when your body involuntarily takes its first deep breath in a long time …


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When you finally settle the “should we find out?” discussion.

“Should we find out what if the baby is a boy or girl??”


“I don't know. What do you think?”

“I'm not sure. Whatever you want is fine.”

“But I don't want to know if you don't want to know.”

Get past 20 weeks and be glad that decision is finally over.

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When you finally convince your significant other to paint your toes.

It may not be perfect, but it's so much better than trying to find that perfect position to do it yourself. Am I right, ladies? Bonus points if you can get a foot massage thrown in!

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The night you don't want to crash by 8 p.m.

In the first trimester, I am toast by 8 p.m. every night. I am literally falling asleep at the table/putting my kids to bed/pretending to enjoy the zombie-eating show my husband is watching on Netflix. So happy is the day when I realize that, lo and behold, I still have energy left at night! I mean, not a lot, of course, but still. I could read! Or take a bath! Or browse Pinterest for projects I won't do and stuff I won't make! #winning

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The moment you decide on a name you both don't absolutely hate.

It's like the skies break and the heavens are shining down upon you, my friend. Because there is nothing more time-consuming/obnoxious/thoroughly frustrating than getting two people to agree on the naming of another human being.

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Any and all nights you sleep through the night without waking up to pee.

It's rare, I'll give you that, but it does happen. Severe exhaustion plus a slight case of not drinking water in the late hours, and I've woken up to what felt like the most glorious, restful sleep of my life. Which I'll take now, before the newborn days, thank you very much.

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The day you hit 30 weeks.


Maybe it's just me, but there's something about the fact that you can now count down, instead of up. It's all about the mind games during pregnancy, folks. Bring on those last 10 weeks, baby!

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The moment you have your first “real” contraction.

You will simultaneously think, “Yay! It's finally time!” and “Oh no! It's finally time!”

Luckily, it is worth it. But we'll save that milestone for another time …

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9 Pregnancy Milestones No One Tells You About

Chaunie Brusie is a writer, mom of four, and founder of The Stay Strong Mom, a community + gift box service for moms after loss. ... More

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  1. Sarah says:

    Wow, I’m lucky. We found out a little over a week ago and have already settled the name and gender reveal debate. We’re finding out what it is, and names are Olivia Rose and William Alexander (or Christian Alexander, as a backup).

  2. Tiffany says:

    I never got to have a real contraction, at least not one I felt…I’m missing a muscle in my uterus, so literally would never have dilated, and the only reason I did dilate to 4 was because my daughter’s huge head was right there pushing against it…But I never felt a real contraction until I was forced to…

  3. Tisha says:

    I absolutely agree: getting over morning sickness is hard work and does not miraculously happen in the second trimester! And the step to settle into maternity clothes and embrace my bump was perhaps one of the most satisfying, joyful things I EVER did for myself my whole life.

  4. Merica says:

    This is my second pregnancy. With my first, I did not need maternity clothes but at just 11 weeks I can already feel/see the need to run to a maternity store!

  5. Alison says:

    The second one makes me giggle. My mom bought me maternity clothes before I hit three months, and honestly I don’t ever want to wear normal pants again! Maternity pants are so much more comfortable, and I feel like they are much more slimming than just a normal pair of jeans or sweatpants. Plus, they make my bump look cute and normal instead of lumpy.

  6. Raechelle says:

    8/9 isn’t bad… I had an emergency c-section at 29 weeks.


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