6 Tips To Keep Your Relationship Sexy After Welcoming a Baby

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In the postpartum stage of parenthood, your days are filled with pleas of”Why is he still crying?”, diaper changes, doctor's appointments, and a whole lot of missed sleep. It is no easy stage of parenting, as you're getting your footing and learning about this new person, and all that stress and extra stuff can have a real effect on the relationship with your partner.

If you're looking for ways to keep your relationship with your partner sexy and healthy after welcoming a new baby into your life, it's not impossible! There are a few simple things both of you can do in order to keep that very important spark alive and well.

Here are a few tips that have worked well for me.

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Keep it simple.

You don't need to have the full shebang in order to feel sexy and intimate with your partner. Keep it simple — it can go a long way. Hold hands, kiss, cuddle on the couch, and use that time you have in the bed together to really keep your spark flying. You can keep things really sexy with just words, a certain look, and a gentle touch!

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Schedule dates.

It may sound like there's nothing more unsexy than non-spontaneity, but if you're waiting to be spontaneous, you may be waiting way too long. Plan dates every so often and put your best effort into looking sexy and feeling sexy.

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Forget that you're “Mom” and “Dad.”

Don't forget about the baby and put yourself in any situations where you could get into trouble, but get a babysitter for an hour or two and forget your new roles. Talk as you would pre-kids, dress like you would have, and reconnect — just the two of you.


Alternatively, you can try planning a different date or try putting yourself in situations that you haven't before. Try rock climbing, go to a classical concert — forget your new roles for a little while once every few weeks and rekindle that spark between you two.

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Speak up.

It's important to talk about your intimacy after welcoming a baby, because if you're anything like me, your body image and self-esteem may have taken a small hit after your baby was born. I was uncomfortable with the new softer curves and, well, breastfeeding didn't help either. It may not sound sexy to talk about your issues and concerns, but trust me — once you've gotten it all out, it's so much easier to get in the mood!

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Talk about life, not just kids.

It can be challenging for parents to talk to each other about things outside of what the kids are doing, what the baby needs, or what is on the to-do list, but it's important for intimacy. Talk about your goals for life, your goals for your relationship, your daydreams about what you'd like to do together one day when the kids are grown.

If you're not shy with each other, and you shouldn't be, practice your dirty talking together — your baby will have no idea what you're talking about anyway.

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Get creative.

Think outside of the box on ways you and your partner can stay intimate. It may not look like it did in the past, but creativity can get you a long way. Put the baby in the stroller and go on a romantic walk. Take a nice picnic to the park with some wine and cheese with your baby in tow. Pretend and role play and meet for a drink at the bar one night. Just keeping the spice alive doesn't have to be super elaborate to stay sexy.

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What are some of the ways you help keep your relationship alive after welcoming a baby? Share in the comments!

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6 Tips To Keep Your Relationship Sexy After Welcoming a Baby

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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