5 Things I Want New Moms to Know

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When you have your first baby, you're in for kind of a whirlwind. It's a new experience that is a little bit frightening mixed with a whole lot of excitement. You've gotten through pregnancy and labor, and now you're staring at this helpless little baby, who only seems to scream no matter what you do.

New motherhood can be very stressful, and you may feel like you're not sure what you're doing. If you're a new mom, here are 5 things I want you to know- because I would have loved to have heard it when I welcomed my first baby.

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You don't need to “bounce back.”

There is so much pressure to “bounce back” — to get back to your pre-pregnancy shape, but please don't buy into that hype. If you take care of your body by getting sleep, eating healthy foods, and getting out of the house when you can, you're going to be just fine.

Please know that your body will likely have some changes in carrying your baby, and that is totally OK. Learn to love your body, and you'll be better for it.

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Be gentle with yourself.

Not only are you just rounding out carrying and growing a human, but now you're getting to know this baby who actually can't communicate well. Cut yourself some slack and be gentle with yourself. You're going to be emotional, you're going to question what you're doing, and you're going to need some help at some point. All of that is OK!

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You will find a routine, but don't rush it.

I swear, those first six weeks to six months are total chaos. Just when you seem to have a routine down, your baby will switch things up, and you'll be trying to figure it all out again. You will eventually find a routine, and it will be wonderful, but don't worry if it takes a little while.


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Everyone else feels like they're faking it.

When I had my first baby, I had no idea what I was doing. I felt like I had this fakeness about caring for my child that everyone saw through. Apparently I didn't know what I was doing. But as I've come to care for more children and have grown, I've realized that no one really knows what they're doing right away. We're all playing “fake it until we make it” and feel like others can see through it. You're doing just fine!

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You're doing an excellent job.

Yes, you're struggling, you're worrying about how to make it all work, but you're doing an excellent job. You really are.

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5 Things I Want New Moms to Know

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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