5 Things Every Young Mom Is Sick of Hearing
In the world of mothers, I was both a young mom and a “normal” mom, depending on who you asked.
Some would say that a pregnancy at 21 is a perfectly respectable age to become a mother. Others might argue that it's far too young. Like many things in life, the “right” age to have a baby (if such a thing even exists) is completely personal and varies for every woman.
But there are a few things that any young mom, no matter her age, does get sick of hearing over and over again, such as …
If I had a dollar for every time I have heard this, I would definitely not be in any danger of not being able to support my family. And despite hearing it so many times, I'm still not sure what exactly it's supposed to mean. Is it an insult? A compliment? A warning?
If you happen to commit the crime of having more than one child as a young mom, you will most definitely get this comment, which implies 1) that having more than one child means lots of baby daddies and 2) that if you do happen to have different fathers for your kids, that you are somehow less of a mother. And neither stereotype is true.
Haven't you heard of minding your own business? Birth control is a very personal decision, and no one needs to know what you decide to do with your own reproductive choices.
Many people mistakenly assume that young moms are “milking the system” for every last penny they can get or are living completely off of the government. I won't pretend that in some cases young moms don't need help in some way, but instead of thinking that any aid a young mom might use is sucking precious dollars out of the government, I truly believe that we can see that helping young parents is an investment in all of our futures.
Being a young mom doesn't mean you're destined to have a life of serving fast food forever. You can succeed as a young mom, in your education, and in a career that is meaningful for both you and your children.
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