4 Things I Wish I’d Done More While I Was Pregnant
It's no secret that I may or may not be the world's worst pregnant person.
Instead of feeling beautiful, I feel miserable.
Instead of parading around with just a perfect little baby bump, I roll around town with swollen everything.
Instead of sticking to my vows to exercise for all 15 months (you know that's how long pregnancy really feels like), around seven months I just.can't.move.
But in looking back after four pregnancies and at what could possibly be my last baby, who's about to turn 9 months old, I have to admit — there are a few things I wish I had done differently during my pregnancies.
I avoided getting pictures of myself taken during pregnancy like the plague, and I honestly really do regret it. At the time, when you're the pregnant one, it can be hard to imagine a time in your life when you will want to see how enormous you were, but trust me, you will.
You will look back and marvel at that stage in your life. So the next time your partner or your kids try to snap a picture of you, don't shy away, Mama, but strike a pose!
I spent so much time when I was pregnant denying what I really needed.
“Oh, I don't need new clothes. I look awful anyways and pregnancy is only nine months!”
“Oh, I don't need those exercise classes. We shouldn't spend the money!”
“Oh, I might as well wait to get my hair cut until after the baby is born — It's not like I'm going anywhere anyways for a while!”
Excuse my french, but what the heck was wrong with me? It's like I had this idea in my mind that pregnancy = sacrifice, and I didn't think I deserved to take care of myself. I wish that I would have recognized that pregnancy sometimes means putting my own needs first and spent the extra money to stay healthy, fit, and sane.
This one might sound silly, but it's the truth. When I popped into a pool during my last couple of weeks of pregnancy, I couldn't believe how amazing I felt.
For the first time in those nine months, I was actually comfortable. I think that swimming is such an amazing exercise and general pain relief and relaxation method for pregnant women. If you haven't done it yet, get your pregnant self to a pool, my friend.
Whether it's a nine-month pregnant model with pregnancy abs or my fellow pregnant friends who are always skinnier than me, I have definitely compared my pregnant body to other women's. I think it's natural (whether by nature or conditioning) for women to compare themselves to other women, because centuries of programming have taught us that appearance = self worth, which is a different topic for a different discussion, but nonetheless, I WISH I HAD JUST CALMED THE HECK DOWN.
Listen, ladies, your body is doing amazing, amazing things. I know we talk a lot about pregnancy, but when you really and truly stop to think about it, growing a human being is freaking incredible, and no two women will grow a baby the same, bring home the baby the same way, or raise that baby the same way, so please, just stop the comparison and focus on what makes you a happier and a healthier pregnant woman. Because that's all you need for those nine months — and the 90 more that are coming in parenting.Read More