4 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Mother’s Day When You’re a Loss Mom

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While many women start counting down to that one Sunday in May when they're pampered, honored, and loved more, there is another group of women who don't feel the same way. While the date is the same, the feelings of Mother's Day for the second group can bring anxiety, sadness, grief, and pain not typically found on the celebratory day. If you've lost a child at any age or stage, from early miscarriage to late adulthood, the pain and grief of your loss can be felt harder when we celebrate our motherhood.

It's important to honor and celebrate Mother's Day even if your child is no longer with you. While the feelings may be conflicted with your grief, you are a mother, and you do deserve to have a day filled with love. If you've lost a child, be sure to take care of yourself and allow yourself the space to feel those emotions. Reach out if you need some emotional support from people who love you or from a professional.

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Mother's Day can be a very difficult day for a woman who has suffered the loss of a child, but it's important to celebrate for your grief process and for yourself. If you're looking for a meaningful way to celebrate this difficult day for women who have lost a child, check out these four suggestions.

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1. Volunteer

Giving your time, money, support, or talents to an organization in need of volunteers can be a good way to spend a difficult Mother's Day. Choose an organization, cause, or charity that is close to your heart and see if you can recruit other volunteers to help out as well.

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2. Have a party

It might seem like a strange thing to do for Mother's Day, but chances are other mothers are having a party for themselves. You deserve one, too. Have a small gathering in your honor and celebrate your motherhood. If a big party is not your thing, think about celebrating the day with other women and mothers like your own grandmother, mother, sister, or friends.

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3. Write a card to your child

Feeling close to our children is not the easiest on Mother's Day when we long to be able to hold them in our arms. Go and purchase a Mother's Day card and write a love note to your child. Tell them all the things you wish to say and put those feelings you can't get out onto paper. This could be a yearly tradition you do for yourself, and you may start to find it something you look forward to.

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4. Pamper yourself

What makes you happy that you haven't done for yourself in a while? Have you been meaning to get your nails done, get a new haircut, or you just want to indulge in a meal you always find excuses not to eat? Taking care of yourself and pampering yourself can be a very meaningful way to spend Mother's Day. While it may seem strange to consider treating yourself as “meaningful,” trust me, taking gentle care of yourself and putting you at the top of your priorities, even for just one day, can do you and your emotions a world of good.

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4 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Mother’s Day When You’re a Loss Mom

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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