3 Important Tips for Loving Your Body Again After Miscarriage
When it comes healing after miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death, more goes into it than just physically healing. Sure the physical pain and signs may only last a few weeks, but the grief that can follow the loss of a baby, hopes, dreams, wishes, and moments take longer.
There is no timetable for grief because it's different for each person. Some may have complicated grief due to their own unique circumstances — for me, I was grieving and at the same time, I blamed my body for failing to protect my baby; the relationship between my body and I took a while to heal.
If you've experienced a loss — I am so sorry. If you're in a complicated relationship with your body as well — I can empathize. Learning to love your body again after miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death is something you should take the time to do and here are three tips that helped me and may do the same for you.
Forgiveness isn't easy, especially when you're not able to go back in time to change things or understand fully what has happened. Forgiveness is necessary if you've experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal loss because it can help you heal and grieve.
Forgive your body for what has happened. You can go about doing this by talking to your body, express your feelings out loud or through a letter and get out all the thoughts you've been feeling, but haven't said.
2. Focus on the positives.
Take a look at your body and instead of tearing yourself apart and focusing on flaws, shower yourself with compliments. Re-frame your “flaws” into what makes you unique and tell yourself what you're thankful for.
3. Practice self-care.
Healing and working through grief is possible. Over time and through work, you will heal the relationship you have with your body after loss. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself. There are many ways you can practice self-care that will help you love your body again: exercise, practice meditation, spend a day at the spa, buy clothes that make you feel fantastic, and so many more–just do something kind for yourself.
Did you have trouble loving your body again after loss? Share in the comments.