10 Pieces of Pregnancy Advice for First-Time Moms

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Finding out you're pregnant is a huge mix of emotions — whether it was planned or it's an interesting plot twist for you. There are many scary unknowns and exciting things you're probably looking forward to as you journey through pregnancy and begin your new chapter of raising a baby.

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You'll most likely seek the advice of your closest friends who've been pregnant before and begin stocking up on must-reads to answer all your pressing questions. If you're a new mom-to-be and you're looking for some advice (I know we all hate the unsolicited kind), here are 10 pieces of advice to help guide you through the next nine months.

Go easy on the maternity clothes

Maternity clothes have come a long way since our parents' age, and you're no longer stuck to fashion that resembles curtains. You'll probably get away with wearing your regular clothes for the first trimester, but once you start to show, don't go rushing to spend your whole maternity budget right away.

Instead, opt for a pair or two of pants (or use a belly band that allows you to rock the unbuttoned pants look without anyone knowing) and some longer shirts. By the time you're in the third trimester, with your belly and baby a much bigger size, you'll probably need to head back to the maternity store to get larger sizes. Buying in stages will help save you money and keep you comfortable throughout the whole nine months.

Stay off Google

There are pregnancy scare stories all over the place. People love to tell you about their co-workers sister's cousin who had that weird random thing happen that could maybe happen to you, but don't listen. Stay away from Googling all those strange symptoms that are normal when you're pregnant and take your concerns right to your qualified doctor, who can help ease your anxieties.

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Tell your core group of friends early

If you've heard the “rule” that advises you to keep your pregnancy a secret until the second trimester hits — just in case a miscarriage happens — you can go ahead and ignore that.

My advice is to tell your core group of friends — the ones who will be there for you if something does happen — that you're pregnant. This will not only help you feel more supported if a miscarriage does happen, but it will also allow you to celebrate (not in secret) this awesome life-changing adventure.

Also, it's totally helpful to have someone look out for you when your nausea strikes.

Don't “deal” with symptoms because you think you have to

We all know some symptoms are expected with pregnancy, including fatigue, nausea, and some aches and pains. But just because you're pregnant, it doesn't mean you need to deal with those symptoms in silence.

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Sometimes, they can be an indication of a larger issue (like low iron or hyperemesis gravidarum), and talking with your care provider can offer you relief.

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Invest in a body pillow and support tank

There are many products that are great for pregnancy, but the truth is, you don't need all of them. If you're looking for those must-haves that will make your pregnancy happier and easier, invest in a body pillow and support tank.

The body pillow will help you sleep, which is so important when you're growing a baby. It allows you to find a comfortable spot while your growing belly gets larger and your active baby won't stop kicking. It is also one of those useful products for when you're no longer pregnant. I still sleep with mine!

I didn't invest in a support tank until my last pregnancy, and it was the best thing I did. It's so much more than just a tank top: it helps support some of the weight of your growing belly and takes it off your hips. It also acts as a larger shirt, stops your underbelly from peeking under your t-shirt, and keeps your belly looking nice and smooth.

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Find a care provider who makes you comfortable

Your care provider for your pregnancy, whoever you choose to go with and wherever you choose to give birth to your baby, should make you feel comfortable. If you don't feel heard, supported, understood, and like you matter, find someone else.

Don't obsess over weight gain

It's going to happen, and you need it to happen, so don't obsess over it. No, pregnancy isn't a free-for-all at the ice cream parlor, but you don't need to count your calories and worry about every pound. Chat with your care provider to make sure you're following all the advice as far as what your weight gain goal should be.

And chill.

Exercise is actually good advice

If you didn't exercise before pregnancy, don't go jumping into a mega routine without talking with your doctor. But if your doctor gives you the “OK,” it's actually great to fit exercise into your day. It will help combat your fatigue and will slow down weight gain if you're having trouble chilling about that. Exercising throughout your pregnancy will also help a great deal when it comes time to birth your baby.

Trust your instincts

Yes, you're going to be a first-time mom, but don't let anyone use that as an excuse not to take you or your concerns seriously. If an inside voice (your instinct) is telling you something, listen to it.

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Relax, sleep, and enjoy it

I know, everyone says this, but it's good advice, too. Try to enjoy this as much as possible. Savor the kicks, and rest when you can. One day, when your family is complete, you will look back at this time in your life and revisit those memories over and over again.

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What advice do you have for a first time mom? Share in the comments!

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10 Pieces of Pregnancy Advice for First-Time Moms

Devan McGuinness is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief, which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss. Winner of the 2012 Bloganthropy Award and named one of Babble's “25 bloggers wh ... More

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  1. Nicole says:

    Your emotions are not your own! That little creature inside you is dictating everything at this point! But just because you went into a rage rant over the corn flakes is not the end of the world. Take lots of deep breaths, apologize when needed, and do your best!


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