Searching for a Surrogate
If you have discovered that you are unable to conceive, for whatever reason, the good news is that you are not out of options. Those couples who are set on having a baby can still choose to have a surrogate carry their child. Finding a surrogate is no easy task, but with some careful searching and lots of research, you can likely find the perfect person to carry your bundle of joy.
Types of Surrogates
There are two types of surrogates. While both types involve carrying a baby to term for the IPs (intended parents), the difference lies in the source of the eggs. A traditional surrogacy involves using the surrogate’s egg plus artificial insemination, while a gestational surrogacy involves using the mother’s egg, or a donor’s, through in-vitro fertilization.
The type of surrogate you choose depends on your situation and your comfort level, as well as your budget. In-vitro fertilization can be costly, but you may be more comfortable using a donor’s egg, or your own if it is viable, rather than that of the surrogate’s.
Going through an agency is the recommended choice, as it offers more screening and protection for all parties involved. It should be noted, though, that not all surrogate agencies are the same, so choose carefully. Examine the actual costs, as some agencies have hidden fees, and see if you can get in contact with some previous clients to find out what they thought of their experience.
When you choose a surrogate agency, there will be a lengthy application and screening process involved. Be patient; this is intended to make sure that you and your partner are ready. From start to finish, surrogacy can take 18 to 20 months, so you have to be prepared for the long haul.
If you don’t like the idea of using a surrogate agency, then you may want to strike out on your own to find a surrogate. Start with friends and family – you’d be surprised at how many surrogates are found within your own circle. Otherwise, you may try searching online forums or posting an ad.
It is extremely important that you exercise caution if you choose this route, as there are people out there who are less than honest about their intentions for surrogacy. You have to carefully screen applicants and include a criminal record check if you can.
Whichever road you take to finding a surrogate, ensure that all of your legal rights are covered. A surrogacy contract is of upmost importance, as it protects both parties. Talk to and hire a lawyer who is experienced with surrogacy, and have them review any contract before you sign.