Planning Sex When You Are Trying to Conceive


It’s funny really, how something that used to bring you such pleasure and enjoyment is now scheduled as diligently as a dental exam. There are hundreds of myths and old wives tales floating around the prenatal circles that seem to indicate that having sex in the wrong way can hold you up for conceiving. Plus, you have read the books that show you which positions are best for sex, how to ensure you have a boy or girl (depending on your wishes), and the best way to keep the sperm in. Really, when did sex become so difficult? Talk about taking the passion out of a relationship. Many couples trying to conceive certainly do it with robotic deliberation. So, does how you have sex really make or break fertility? Experts say it can.

For one thing, doctors say that the best position for pregnancy is the ‘rear entry’ position. The reason is because in this position, women have a tipped uterus which will help hold the sperm into the uterus. If you don’t enjoy this position, don’t worry – you can get the same results from lying on your stomach after sex for 10-15 minutes. In fact, experts suggest that women who are trying to get pregnant stay reclined after sex to allow ALL the sperm to reach the uterus before gravity and urination wash some of the slower swimmers out. The only problem with this theory is that jumping up and down after sex is definitely NOT a form of birth control, which proves you can get pregnant no matter what you do.

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Another important aspect of having sex when you are trying to conceive, is when you have sex. You have seen all those ads where the woman calls her husband and says, “It’s time!” and yes, having sex at the exact moment of ovulation is great. The problem is that while we are pretty good at predicting ovulation, you might not get it exactly right. This is why it is important to have sex three days before ovulation, on the day of, and on the day after. This way all of your bases are pretty much covered. Plus, the sperm that made it to the uterus prior to an egg being released may be able to live long enough to catch the egg as soon as it arrives.

What do you think?

Planning Sex When You Are Trying to Conceive

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  1. Profile photo of Christina Christina says:

    well i dont have a husband i have a boyfriend well we dont plan to have sex it just happen

  2. Profile photo of TaKeisha TaKeisha says:

    My husband and I don’t plan sex, ovulating or not we just go for it. And I don’t think it matters which positions you try when trying to conceive.

  3. Profile photo of Gracie Gracie says:

    I have been trying for 7 yrs.

  4. Profile photo of Janice Janice says:

    Pre-planning seems strange. I know that would not be my course of action.!

  5. Profile photo of DANIYAH DANIYAH says:


  6. Profile photo of RAQUEL RAQUEL says:

    I do not think it matters what position your in sexually when trying to conceive. I got pregnant in a standing up position…

  7. this was a set up. lol

  8. Profile photo of HMomOf4 HMomOf4 says:

    Apparently Being Irish beats the whole "dont have too much sex" thing.

  9. Profile photo of Julie Julie says:

    Helpful, but planned sex is not our thing. I think we would both get bored real quick trying to conceive this way. I don’t want to be saying "We have to have sex, NOW!!"

  10. Profile photo of momatobe momatobe says:

    Just relax, things happed in Gods time not ours.

  11. Profile photo of melissa melissa says:

    it can sometimes feel like a chore when tryng to conceive for a while

  12. Profile photo of Frederick Frederick says:

    we didnt plan our baby it just sort of happened . I think that having fun & just loving each other works best

  13. Profile photo of MLS MLS says:

    Making it fun works if u just think about it all the time its not fun just aggrevating especially when it dont work when u want it to.

  14. Profile photo of Maggie Maggie says:

    If you cant have fun with it, it will never work, it just feels like another chore

  15. Profile photo of Diamond Diamond says:

    i played beyonce song "dance for you" i did a little striptease for him and next time you know we going at it like two dogs and now i’m 10 weeks pregnant

  16. Profile photo of Brandi Brandi says:

    This is true. Once we brought the fun back into our sex life, I got pregnant

  17. Profile photo of tista tista says:

    im already pregnant


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