Picking Out Baby Names
Some people have known their whole lives what they will name their future son or daughter. Some couples agree on names immediately. Some relatives gush when they hear the potential name list. However, I was none of these people. Coming up with a name was not fun, not joyous, not quick, and not easy. But I came through it with a few tips.
Get one of those baby name books. Yes, you can look online, but you'll want to cozy up with that book once you've been staring at a computer monitor for two hours straight. I got a book that had 50,001 names for boys and girls. I literally read every single name. Now, if you have an idea about your potential names, for example you like names that begin with D, then by all means don't read the entire book. But if you have as much trouble as I did, you will.
As you're reading the giant book, keep a list of names you like. Not the ones you love, although they should obviously be included as well. Write down all the names that you think are okay. You'll want a big list to choose from.
Have your partner do the same thing. They may not want to, so if they put up a fuss, start throwing out really bizarre names. It will scare them into choosing some.
Next, compare lists. There may be some miracle that one or two of the names appear on both lists. This will make life easy for you. However, you may find that none match. That's when you begin the veto game. You can veto any of the names on your partner's list. It may leave you with zero. Then you're in the situation we were in. (Don't worry-our baby has a name!) Keep at it until you have a short list of names you both like.
Most importantly-keep the names to yourself. Once you have this short list, you do not want people ruining your names. And they will. You've spent all this time and effort and arguing coming up with what you feel is a great name, and your aunt will say, “Oh, that name is so unattractive. You're not using that, are you?” Or your brother will say, “That's the name of this kid I used to go to school with. He ate paste and wet his pants.” People will harass you, but stay strong!
Hopefully by the time the baby is due, you and your partner will have a name ready to go. Last minute checks: Do the initials spell anything unpleasant? Does the name rhyme with anything obscene? Do you have a backup name in case the ultrasound was wrong and you get a boy instead of a girl?
Then, when your beautiful little baby comes into this world, you can name him or her. If you still don't agree, feel free to use the hey-I'm-the-one-who-was-in-labor-for-18-hours argument. That tends to work. And when your friends and family come to visit, the name will be set in stone and they won't be able to say anything except “What a perfect name!”