LGBT Adoption

father with his childAdopting as a same-sex couple may be a daunting experience. Adoption laws vary by state. While some states actively preclude same-sex couples from adopting, there are others that welcome same-sex couples as adoptive parents. Below are a few things to consider.


Do your research. Contact your local lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, and transgender (LGBT) support chapter to learn of other’s experiences with same-sex adoption. Get in contact with other couples who have adopted. Search the internet for the adoption statues in your state. As of April 2011, these states actively prohibit same-sex adoption: Utah, Arkansas, Mississippi, and Florida (however, a Florida couple is currently appealing a decision prohibiting them from adopting a foster child that is currently in their care).

Hire a Lawyer

Hire a lawyer who is well versed in your state’s same-sex adoption laws. The lawyer can help you navigate the legal system, and offer advice based on the situations they have handled in the past.

Choosing Where to Adopt From

If your state allows same-sex adoption, going through the state agency may be the most cost-effective choice. Private and international adoption agencies may be more expensive. Your decision on which agency you chose to adopt through will depend on the type of child you want, and the red tape you are willing to cut through.

What to Expect

The adoption process requires mounds of paperwork. Once an adoption agency is chosen, a home study is often the first step. Be open and honest during the home study – hiding your sexuality may come back to damage your adoption in the future.


Support is important for any couple going through an adoption. Online and community support groups are a wonderful place to learn about other’s experiences. You may encounter unsupportive people in your journey; a support system can help you deal with these situations.

Legal Problems

If your state does not allow same-sex couples to adopt, there may be a way to adopt as a single individual. In this case, it is important to make your wishes known regarding the child, in the event the adoptive partner dies, or your relationship ends. Your lawyer can help you draft all the needed legal documents.

What do you think?

LGBT Adoption

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  1. I think its a beautiful idea. Me and my girlfriend plan to look into adoption for a little boy in the future. 🙂

  2. I also think that gay couples should have the right to adopt! There are too many kids out there that need a family and there are so many people out there that want to foster and adopt these children; however what makes it difficult is the cost and the various laws and procedures.

  3. Profile photo of JessiLoveday JessiLoveday says:

    So this woman is ok with this, but gets her panties in a bunch when a straight couple has a kid out of wedlock?

  4. Profile photo of Marilyn Marilyn says:

    They should have the right to adopt. A lot of kids need loving homes .

  5. Profile photo of Hope Hope says:

    My baby has three godparents: A godmother (a single female) and two godfathers (a gay couple).


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