The Importance of Alone Time
Being a new mom is not all fun, as you have probably discovered. There are many days that are just plain frustrating, and more than a few that put you into tears. You are tired, covered in breast milk and baby spit-up, and just want to get away for a while. This is okay. Don't feel guilty for feeling like you need a break, and don't deny yourself the chance to get some time for yourself.
When you return home you will feel less stressed and more energetic, meaning you will be a much better mom to your little one and likely a better partner for your spouse as well.
For the first few months, taking care of your baby is pretty much an 18 hour a day job, which would be enough to send anyone over the bend. What is important here is that this is temporary and it does get better, which is why taking an hour or two off is important. It allows you to put things into perspective, refresh, and be ready to take the next challenge head-on.
Set a schedule where you get at least three breaks of one or two hours per week. Consider these to be set in stone – it doesn't matter what happens that day, you must stick to your schedule. This way you can avoid deciding at the last minute that your baby needs you more than you need the break, because this is simply not true. Taking care of yourself is equally important.
So what do you do with your time off? Whatever you like, but here are a few suggestions:
- Join another mom for coffee and dessert to discuss your challenges
- Take a book to a sunny spot in the park and read
- Go for a walk, jog, or run
- Join an exercise program (aerobics, kickboxing, circuit training, etc)
- Anything you want!
It really isn't important what you do when away from your baby, just that you have the time away. When you return home you will feel less stressed and more energetic, meaning you will be a much better mom to your little one and likely a better partner for your spouse as well. In time, you will begin to cherish your alone time and look forward to when it arrives, and that is just how it should be.