The Importance of Alone Time


Being a new mom is not all fun, as you have probably discovered. There are many days that are just plain frustrating, and more than a few that put you into tears. You are tired, covered in breast milk and baby spit-up, and just want to get away for a while. This is okay. Don't feel guilty for feeling like you need a break, and don't deny yourself the chance to get some time for yourself.

When you return home you will feel less stressed and more energetic, meaning you will be a much better mom to your little one and likely a better partner for your spouse as well.

For the first few months, taking care of your baby is pretty much an 18 hour a day job, which would be enough to send anyone over the bend. What is important here is that this is temporary and it does get better, which is why taking an hour or two off is important. It allows you to put things into perspective, refresh, and be ready to take the next challenge head-on.

Set a schedule where you get at least three breaks of one or two hours per week. Consider these to be set in stone – it doesn't matter what happens that day, you must stick to your schedule. This way you can avoid deciding at the last minute that your baby needs you more than you need the break, because this is simply not true. Taking care of yourself is equally important.

So what do you do with your time off? Whatever you like, but here are a few suggestions:

  • Join another mom for coffee and dessert to discuss your challenges
  • Take a book to a sunny spot in the park and read
  • Go for a walk, jog, or run
  • Join an exercise program (aerobics, kickboxing, circuit training, etc)
  • Anything you want!

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It really isn't important what you do when away from your baby, just that you have the time away. When you return home you will feel less stressed and more energetic, meaning you will be a much better mom to your little one and likely a better partner for your spouse as well. In time, you will begin to cherish your alone time and look forward to when it arrives, and that is just how it should be.

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The Importance of Alone Time

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  1. Profile photo of Diana Diana says:

    very important to have alone time

  2. Profile photo of Irza Irza says:

    Alone time is important, one way of giving yourself a little space to regroup.

  3. Profile photo of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    At this stage, I am inseparable with my little one and so to his daddy. I spend alone time reading blogs and ebooks or browsing/ shopping online. Or taking longer shower. I am happy with that.

  4. A lone time is a big factor. I know this because I never get it my SO takes off all the time and leave me with other son and I have to some many time sit him down and just walk away for a few minute or if im lucky my mother or father will play with him to give me some cool off time! But to have alone time nope I do not get it 🙁

  5. Profile photo of Alanna Alanna says:

    Yes. Alone time and time with your partner are critical.

  6. Profile photo of Antonia Antonia says:

    Alone timeis important . gives me time to regroup .

  7. Profile photo of shelia shelia says:

    Yes, that is what I need, alone time for myself. I am going to schedule a break one hour a week and see how it goes.

  8. Profile photo of Charavon Charavon says:

    In 2014 I am going to give myself one day a month without my kids or anyone else. I am going to do something for me and me only.

  9. i get a break one night a month where my daughter goes to her grandparents house over night.

  10. Profile photo of Angelica Angelica says:

    At nite, I need at least 1 hour alone before I crash. I try to get out for some alone time too.

  11. Profile photo of Lynette says:

    i wish I had time alone. My kids are always with me and well I love them but I need time for myself

  12. It is very rewarding. Even if its just a few extra mins in the bathroom or shower.

  13. Profile photo of EbyMom EbyMom says:

    The alone time is really rewarding. I have tried it out myself. It makes one feel anew as the day goes by. It is good.

  14. Profile photo of Sierra-Dawn Sierra-Dawn says:

    I want to go back to yoga

  15. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i’m really not finding any alone time, but i try to keep myself refreshed by taking time to myself to read or watch tv

  16. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i feel your pain, i get my time when all of my children are sleeping, but i’m usually to tired to enough it

  17. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i feel your pain- my spouse works 3 jobs and i have no close family

  18. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i sometimes get to enjoy a long hot bath- but its rare….

  19. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i had this issue to with my first child, and 2nd and 3rd -which is all of my children, ha i still have this issue

  20. Profile photo of Anastacia113 Anastacia113 says:

    A jog sounds great, but I still have to get over my fear of leaving my babies at home with Daddy. Although I know he can handle it, It makes me sad to not be there to watch them myself, especially when I know I need some long over-due alone time.

  21. Profile photo of shalayaeddie shalayaeddie says:

    My alone time is taking a long hot shower.

  22. Profile photo of ChrisS ChrisS says:

    The only alone time I get is when I am going out for a big grocery shopping.

  23. Profile photo of Emmy Emmy says:

    it is hard to get alone time because I don’t like to get help with the baby

  24. Profile photo of Jeanra Jeanra says:

    I get alone time when my baby is with her grandmother or asleep


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