How to Get Your Sex Drive Back
Instead of brewing, realize that having children changes the deepest dynamics of your relationship and that the two of you must start over to analyze and reevaluate expectations and roles. If you need help, are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, or think you are losing yourself in becoming a mother – ASK FOR HELP!
You need to be reminded that you are loved and special, and your spouse does too.
Your husband may not know you feel this way. So many moms become immersed in the baby 100% of the time and many dads feel left out of the loop and may not know how to help. Then you are resentful and exhausted – both of which do nothing to get you in the mood for sex.
Another sex drive killer is if you have suddenly become super mom. It is normal for fathers to become resentful because suddenly their wife has no interest in anything that doesn’t involve the baby – including him! This lack of interest in your partner can cause a bit of jealousy (although he won’t admit it).
Remember, just as you need to be reminded that you are loved and special, your spouse does too. Also, just because your body has changed doesn’t mean that your husband doesn’t find you attractive. Most men admit that a few extra pounds or curves do not hinder their desire to make love to their partners. You are probably worried about it more than he is! After what you just went through to have a baby, you deserve a medal of bravery – so be proud of your body, and allow yourself to enjoy it.
If time has gone by and you still don’t feel like you are ever in the mood for sex, you may have to try forcing the issue. By this, I mean wearing a little sexy lingerie, setting the mood at home, and finding a baby sitter for the night. Send sexy text messages to one another or suggestive emails throughout the day. In other words, take the bull by the horns, lose your inhibitions, and remember how great it feels to be sexy. A little sexual teasing can go a long way.
Once you get over the hump of a sexual slump, things may just get better than they ever were before. Remember to leave your insecurities, resentments, and thoughts of being a mother at the bedroom door, and learn to have fun again. After all, you deserve it.