How to Get Your Sex Drive Back

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Instead of brewing, realize that having children changes the deepest dynamics of your relationship and that the two of you must start over to analyze and reevaluate expectations and roles. If you need help, are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, or think you are losing yourself in becoming a mother – ASK FOR HELP!

You need to be reminded that you are loved and special, and your spouse does too.

Your husband may not know you feel this way. So many moms become immersed in the baby 100% of the time and many dads feel left out of the loop and may not know how to help. Then you are resentful and exhausted – both of which do nothing to get you in the mood for sex.

Another sex drive killer is if you have suddenly become super mom. It is normal for fathers to become resentful because suddenly their wife has no interest in anything that doesn’t involve the baby – including him! This lack of interest in your partner can cause a bit of jealousy (although he won’t admit it).

Remember, just as you need to be reminded that you are loved and special, your spouse does too. Also, just because your body has changed doesn’t mean that your husband doesn’t find you attractive. Most men admit that a few extra pounds or curves do not hinder their desire to make love to their partners. You are probably worried about it more than he is! After what you just went through to have a baby, you deserve a medal of bravery – so be proud of your body, and allow yourself to enjoy it.

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If time has gone by and you still don’t feel like you are ever in the mood for sex, you may have to try forcing the issue. By this, I mean wearing a little sexy lingerie, setting the mood at home, and finding a baby sitter for the night. Send sexy text messages to one another or suggestive emails throughout the day. In other words, take the bull by the horns, lose your inhibitions, and remember how great it feels to be sexy. A little sexual teasing can go a long way.

Once you get over the hump of a sexual slump, things may just get better than they ever were before. Remember to leave your insecurities, resentments, and thoughts of being a mother at the bedroom door, and learn to have fun again. After all, you deserve it.


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How to Get Your Sex Drive Back

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  1. anney says:

    Natural ways can definitely help to enhance sexual desire which includes foods, herbal supplements etc. There are lots of herbs available which definitely help to get back sexual desire. Foria lubricant contains coconut oil and medical cannabis oil from plants grown in California that aims to provide the best sexual experience for women as it reportedly gives them multiple sex orgasms during intercourse.

  2. shelia says:

    After our first two kids my sex drive was great, but when I had my last baby it went down.

  3. Kylie says:

    no my oldest is 6…. and my youngest two are 18 months and 7 weeks…. and im 25, but my partner and i have a very open relationship were not afraid to talk to one another about any thing….. and truthfully thats the key….. after my daughter we hardly ever were intimate we were so wrapped up in a new born but we sat down and kind of made out a game plan so every other weekend when I was off my mom or his would take our son and daughter so we could have alone time and true alone time not the 10 min. shower or the mountain car drive….. sometimes we didnt do anything but hold one another then other times………. but now I have another new born but were back to the same game plan!

  4. joanna says:

    ive notice that now that I have 4 kids at the age of 25 things really change…especially when ur breastfeeding n have 3 toddlers at the age of 1,2 &3..but im not the only person that is going threw something similar

  5. Sandra says:

    happy i am not the only one!

  6. Timothy says:

    did someone say SEX ?

  7. Belkys says:

    I have my wound open steel after 4 weeks so no thinking of that intel I am healed

  8. alicia says:

    i feel like i had no sex drive even before the first kid. im hoping to build one after this second one.

  9. Marilyn says:

    Things went sour for a long time after our first. This time it will be different. We both know what happened and will makes sure to keep each others feelings in mind. 🙂

  10. cassyg143 says:

    nice to know im not the only one or that it is somewhat normal

  11. Juat says:

    My story with began, I loved my my boyfriend so much but he never loved me rather he traveled with another girl to unknown destination, I was all over the internet trying to find who could help me out with my situation but no results at all or little signs, I have to admit I was about to give up on him, then one day I was making a search onaGoogle i found in the internet where he had helped many girls who hadthe same issue with me, when i contacted him he said he will help me and just as he said after But 3 days after the the spell was done, I received an email from my boyfriend and that’s when things really changed he stopped his bad habit, We came back together and I was astounded because so many say they are the best but can’t back it. but priest grace really surprised me with his spell, i want to testify today about the seriousness of priest grace
    blessing, England

  12. Brenda says:

    I never lost my sex drive after my daughter came! But there is times when i dont have energy.

  13. Kate says:

    I guess it’s nice to read that I’m not the only one who has some of these feelings. It was very informative for certain things.

  14. Tara says:

    this has really opened my eyes..after my first one it took forever it seemed to get back into, probably because I was so stressed and exhausted….this time around I am hoping it will be different…not afraid to ask for help this time to help relieve stress

  15. yonna says:

    I am trying to regain mine due to me having postpartum depression with my last child.

  16. Deanna says:

    this article helped a lot!!

  17. Heatherly says:

    Good article! It is a little intimidating the first time after having a baby, with a lot of sensitive areas! But it does get easier and better after the first couple of times!

  18. Jessie says:

    wow… I breast feed, and I was doing other things for him less than a week after I had our son, and we were having sex before the full 6 weeks was up. lol. Then again, we’ve never really been able to keep our hands off each other! 😉

  19. Aiden says:

    Wondering how I will feel after ma boo thang comes

  20. acampbell says:

    This article is great to keep my mind in the right places at the right time! I want to take care of my family and my husband in all areas!

  21. katherine says:

    I still enjoy having making love with my husban n our sob is 14 weeks old!

  22. PrettyBoogs says:

    I am going to try my hardest to always make time for my S/O. I already thing of only baby. I can already see me only making time for her after she is born. So hopefully If i have this thought set forward in my mind ahead of time.. I can save us this struggle.

  23. Elyse Rose says:

    The biggest thing that my husband and I learned after our first child was just to communicate. We constantly do things to work on it. Our problem was that we had big stresses in our life and it was the little things that caused us to explode. Dirty socks on the floor, dishes in the sink, clothes not folded, or dog hair on the couch. Also, our little pet peeves with each other were an issue. Now we work on just blurting it out when it bugs us so we don’t harbor the little things. Works like a charm!

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