How Do I Keep My Child from Becoming Sexually Active?

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An open and honest relationship is the best way to keep your teen safe and protected.

As a mom, thinking about your teen being sexually active can be a very scary thing. While your teens probably think sex feels good, is fun, or is a way to make someone love them, you are most likely thinking of all the potential consequences of sexually-active teens.

While there is no proven way to prevent your teens from becoming sexually active (well, besides locking them in their room until they are twenty), you can take certain steps to make sure your children are well-informed and safe.

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“Sex” is Not a Dirty Word

Teens are curious about sex—there are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. They may have friends that are already sexually active, or they may see sex glorified in movies or on TV. It’s important that they get the correct information about sex—all the good, the bad, and the ugly—from you. You may feel uncomfortable talking about sex with your child; but even if you present an abstinence-only stance, knowledge is power. Make sure your child knows that she can talk to you about sex and can ask you any question that she may have. This can help ensure that she is getting the correct answers from credible sources, while not relying solely on the things teenagers talk about at sleepovers and in locker rooms.


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How Do I Keep My Child from Becoming Sexually Active?

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  1. Tiffany says:

    You know its sad when kids are young and have kids, but like I tell teens the baby is either going change your life your ruin your life! And most of the babies change a person for the better, and the only thing you can do is put your children on birth control or give condoms out. There was a friend of mine that was told she couldn’t buy condoms when we were younger because she was to young, so I mean people want these teens to not have sex or be protected then allow them to get what they need to be protected!!

  2. Alyssa says:

    I am 17 years old. My parents talked to me about sex once when I was around 9. They made me cry and I was very scared, but it happened anyways and I am now expecting. What ever most people think of teen moms is generally wrong. I have more knowledge then most people beyond my years, I’ve always had a special way with kids, and I can promise no matter how young I am, my child will be the most loved thing ever, and I will give her everything and anything she needs. Don’t stereotype teen moms, yes some of them are crappy parents, but not all are the same. I love my baby like nothing else. just because I’m a teen doesn’t mean I can’t do it, because I will and I am.

    • Eva says:

      Amen to that girl!! I got pregnant when I was 18 and everyone said “She is just throwing her life away” but they are so wrong. We get the opportunity to share our young years with a child and that means we will better understand them. I am 19 now and I am about to have my little girl in a few weeks! Keep your head up little mama!!

  3. Kelly says:

    As a mom of 4 girls, the oldest of which is 14, and I am an aunt to 6 nieces, I think it is very scary to think about. But in all honesty and reality, it’s going to happen at some point. So the better off that you are prepared to deal with it early on rather than later. I’ve talked to my kids about waiting and finding that special person first, love is a very powerful thing. They see a wonderful example of it everyday in our home and I can hope that they have learned to value and treasure that gift. I totally agree with you Raven, if you talk to them the right way and make them see not only by words but by example too…..I think they will make the right choice for themselves in the end. Also Flo, you are right, it’s better to have them protected in some way so they don’t come home pregnant and it’s a good thing. I don’t believe it’s encouraging them either, it’s just offering them a safer method for something they are going to do any ways if that’s the path they choose to go down. Open, honest communication is key.

  4. liz says:

    good article, my girl its just 9 months but im gonna be prepare since now, time gos fast 🙂

  5. raven says:

    its not true that you cant stop them my mom talked to me all the time about sex she taught me to value my body in what it means to wait for the right person u talk to them the right way about it theyll want to wait

  6. Flo says:

    Because of all the new electronics and thongs of that nature that weren’t necessarily available to us when we were teenagers, I think it is best to talk to your teenager whether they are a boy or girl. The other options if you choose not to are the internet teaches them, their friends teach them, they may try it and come home pregnant, have a STD or get a girl pregnant. So as parents, we cannot be afraid to have this conversation. Also, if you have a daughter and she seems to be interested in possibly having sex, you may want to get her on the shot because as teens she may forget to take her pill. That doesn’t mean you are saying it is ok, but it doesn’t hurt to be safe. You must also be sure that both your son and daughter know how to use condoms. Peer pressure is much stronger than you may want to believe.
    Be blessed

  7. Leslie says:

    You can’t stop them. Just teach them right. As long they stay safe.

  8. bmattler92 says:

    open discussion is the best way to approach any subject.

  9. Paula says:

    there are some parents that are freely open with their child and gives them the decision to decide to have sex or not

  10. Victoria says:

    I wish my parents had talked to me about this

    • Member ALEX says:

      As per my understanding , parents is talked to the fact and expereience. Aslso it is possible praticaly show how to do sex…that is very good knowledge of kids… good blue filim , & physically show how to start and finish sex , and safe method, etc..that is better for kids..

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