Evaluating Your Parenting Readiness: Are You Prepared For a New Arrival?

happy coupleSo, you think you are ready to have a baby? If you have never had a child, there’s little doubt that you’ll be in for an eye-opener or two after you get pregnant, no matter how well-prepared you are. Therefore, you should find out everything you can about having a baby before you begin trying to get pregnant. Here are some key factors to consider as you make this life-altering decision:

Financial Responsibilities

Having a child costs a lot of money, as most parents-to-be understand. However, many people don’t take into account the financial changes that occur after having a child. If you are planning to go back to work, realize that you may have a change of heart about working a full-time job once you have a newborn at home waiting on you.

You’ll also be extremely tired for at least the first six months, as newborns eat every two hours around the clock, and that’s not even counting the constant diaper changes. You may also learn that your childcare is only open until a certain hour each day and that you can’t work as many hours as you did before. Therefore, it’s a good idea to pay off any loan debt, such as a car loan or credit card debt, now so that you have fewer financial obligations to worry about after giving birth.

You also need to have a nest egg. Save enough money to cover rent, utilities, food, etc., for three to six months, in case you find yourself unable or unwilling to go back to work fulltime after the baby’s birth. Look into maternity and/or paternity leave to see what is available and what steps you need to take in order to receive the time off.

Emotional Preparedness

Expecting mothers’ hormones often skyrocket, causing extreme mood swings. Add this to the sometimes unexpected attitude of the father-to-be, who may or may not be in the picture, and you have two time bombs waiting to explode. There are so many emotional changes that occur between an expecting mother and father that, compounded with the stress of bringing a new baby into the family, can sometimes be too much to handle. Once-strong relationships can crumble if you aren’t prepared for the emotional changes ahead of time.

One way to keep your relationship strong during a pregnancy and after birth is to make social connections with other parents. Start attending family-oriented social gatherings in your community to meet new parents, and make an effort to schedule couple time as well. After the baby is born, take at least one night a week for just you and your mate.

Physical Space

Having a child takes up a lot of space. If you live in an already-cramped apartment, you’ll need to look into a larger place to live in order to make room for a baby. The baby will need a lot of stuff, from a crib to a stockpile of diapers, and you’ll need to have the extra space for it all. Also, if you depend on public transportation on a regular basis, you may want to consider getting a car to save yourself the hassle of carrying a heavy baby carrier and a baby bag everywhere you go.

Having a baby is a miraculous event that results in a joy like no other. However, with every great achievement comes a great deal of stress and changes. Savor the quiet time you have and reconsider what it will take to prepare for a little one—once your baby arrives, you’ll be glad you did.

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16 comments

  1. mommy nhoj says:

    Glad that we’ll able to pull through when our little one arrived! Guess we are indeed ready 🙂

  2. Samantha says:

    Due to recent events after getting pregnant we are not fully financially ready but this will be baby number two and we will get by just fine. Plus breastfeeding this boy like my last I will save a ton of money.

  3. tangled says:

    Not financially ready but we will do our best nonetheless

  4. I am totally ready for this!

  5. i’m ready for anything…i’ll do anything for honeybunches when she gets here

  6. cammom143 says:

    I am ready this is baby number two for me, but this is baby number one for my old man. I don’t think he is 100% ready yet but I have faith in him I think he will do just fine. He does so good with my first son he takes care of him like he is his wone. The only thing that we are butting heads about is I know I need to go back to work after the baby i borne because of the financial berdone a new baby brings. My old man on the other hand wants me to stay home with the baby. Which I would love to do but he just has no clue how much a baby cost. I think we will solve this problem and everything will be fine.

  7. Lauren says:

    We’ve got the physical space taken care of, we just moved into a two bedroom apartment. Finances are going to be tight no matter what we do, and I’m going to have to return to work ASAP full time or we won’t survive. We may definitely need to get a second car though, so that one of us can pick up baby from daycare after work. We have to hope our job will let one of us change our shift to earlier in the day as well, so one can drop off baby in the morning and the other can pick her up in the evening. I hate the idea of throwing my child in daycare right off the bat, but we have no choice

  8. lauren says:

    I wish my husband would understand how much room this baby will take up!! He refuses to get rid of all his stuff in the babies closet and put it into storage. The apartment is a little cramped, but it was a last resort since we were displaced due to Hurricane Sandy!!

  9. MrsPearson says:

    We are ready all the way! This pregnancy was planned!!

  10. KaelinRae says:

    Right now we aren’t really financially ready, so I picked up a job. This will also help in our quest for more space, as we are looking at moving to a different place.

  11. Aiden says:

    Not financially ready but we will do our best nonetheless

  12. Phammom says:

    You will never be financially ready, but you can be financially prepared. Start the research on how much stuff cost and where you can find the cheapest/good quality on diapers or other supplies.

  13. Aimee says:

    No one, no matter how much you do, is never quite fully prepared.

  14. Jeanetta says:

    I don’t think I’m ready to have a baby financially but I don’t know anyone who is and I don’t have enough space for all my baby stuff but I’m happy and can’t wait until she’s here, I think everything will fall into place though.

  15. Julie says:

    When my husband and I first found out we were pregnant we lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment. As soon as we found out we started looking for a house. We now have a larger 2 bedroom house and still feel crowded with all the baby stuff and she’s not even here yet.

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