Do You Want a Financially Happy Marriage?

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According to the National Marriage Project, marriages are more likely to experience troubled waters during a time of financial unease. This is especially likely for marriages that are fiscally uncomfortable due to materialistic debt.  An economically-wise man of an older generation said, “It’s not the cost of living high, but living high that costs.”  As the effects of the economic recession continue to place financial burdens on families, this straightforward message of frugality should be enlightening. 

Families that limit the amount of money they spend on things they do not need can enjoy a financially happy marriage.

Jeffrey Dew, a family and consumer science researcher and teacher, brings this old message some contemporary credit in his article “Thrifty Minded Couples Are the Happiest.” He notes that the size of a couple’s income, large or small, does not dictate the quality or the happiness of their marriage. For example, couples who jointly embrace frugality are markedly happier than non-thrifty couples. To truly understand the difference between needs and wants, couples can practice delayed gratification and live below their means. This is a practice that all married couples should follow during their financial journey, because this shared mindset can favor their emotional and economical partnership.

Frugality does not make a couple immune to financial strains, as marriage is likely to suffer from some fiscal plights.  But it is interesting to observe that financial burdens tend to do little to damage the relationship of married couples who live an economically-cautious lifestyle. For these couples, financial unhappiness is minimal. 

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Do You Want a Financially Happy Marriage?

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24 comments

  1. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    also i like this article. we try our hardest to be responsible, however like it said sometimes even when you do things happen and so you just can’t get ahead.

  2. Profile photo of Grace Grace says:

    i’d love a finacially happy marriage, trouble is we started our marriage with troubled waters in this area and are still paycheck to paycheck 9 years in. our children have to wait when they need new shoes for a paycheck, all clothes are hand me downs collected during my pregnancy with my first baby. money does not equal happiness but it should would mean less stress.

  3. Profile photo of susan susan says:

    As long as we hve what we need, we’re happy.

  4. Profile photo of Hannah Hannah says:

    We get by as in we pay our bills but there is no extra money but we are happy we have happy healthy kids that we are able to provide for and that is good enough for us. To us its not as important to have all kinds of extra money to blow on junk as it is for me to be able to raise our kids how we want them raised. I would still say we do good though we own our own house we both have a nice vehicle bills are paid food is on the table and we don’t have to rely on anyone to do it.

  5. Profile photo of Samantha Samantha says:

    Hubby and I went through 2 months without steady income due to him havingto do some schooling through work. Even now playing catch up on bills we still have a happy marriage not much of a strain I think that’s part of being an adult is accepting and not getting stressed about taking responsibility on things you have to pay and not getting stressed and taking it out on your partner. we recently switched to shopping at aldis… I took an extreme couponing clsss lol it was beyond me and I suck at remembering to take them on my shopping trips.

  6. Profile photo of Eva Eva says:

    We were far from financially stable when we got pregnant. My husband is spoiled so a lot of our money was just going to waste. So we made a budget during my last month of pregnancy because the spending got so out of hand that I had to sell my car!!

  7. Profile photo of Kay Kay says:

    great advice! my husband and I have been working hard to pay off student debt so we can work up to a down payment. Hard at times but hopefully worth it!

  8. Profile photo of SarahGuthrie says:

    of course who would not want to be financially stable and happy in their marriage

  9. Profile photo of Shelby Shelby says:

    Fortunately, we have a lot of family support. On top of budgeting and extending work hours, there is always somewhere to turn for help. Just knowing that helps to relieve some of the stress and tension.

  10. Profile photo of LIZ says:

    thats the one thing i love about my husband he knows hoy to budget the money and we made very good parternship

  11. Profile photo of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    I found few ways to save thru EF, like joining Enfamil new beginnings program. They send us samples and coupons that are indeed so helpful! We also start to enjoy in-store coupons. Haven’t tried buying sunday paper or online sources to get more coupons though.

  12. Profile photo of Marlena AntonucciEDITOR Marlena Antonucci says:

    We do live within our means, and my home seems happier because of it. There’s always room for improvement though! Couponing is a craft I have not tried yet. I never remember to bring them with me to the store.

  13. Profile photo of Timothy Timothy says:

    We have a pretty good savings plan… We save money and when we want something we buy it..

  14. Profile photo of TaKeisha TaKeisha says:

    I have been using coupons for a while. My husband and I are getting better with saving.

  15. We don’t do that great at saving. We have enough for the things we need and to pay all our bills, but I would like to get more out of debt(we really don’t have that much) and have a nice savings for some security. My husband and I just don’t do that great at being on the same page with where our money goes. We’re working on it though!

  16. Profile photo of Timothy Timothy says:

    We won the lottery last week and we are sooooooooo happy now… gifts for everyone..

  17. Profile photo of Timothy Timothy says:

    we have all the money we need.. not all the money i want…lol

  18. Profile photo of Samantha Samantha says:

    I just started using coupons to save money everywhere I can. I don’t buy anything I don’t NEED. No longer go out to eat or go to the movies. It has been a tough change but it is saving a ton of money

  19. Profile photo of rachel rachel says:

    saving money in our house is hard we are also behing on bills all the time and stuff always comes up

  20. Profile photo of stephanie stephanie says:

    So many bills I wish we could save but we are always behind on bills. Lord help us. Now we are have a third child and we already didn’t make enough money. May God be there to help me and the other struggling families.

  21. Profile photo of Claudia Claudia says:

    My husband and i save ten percent of our income on every check. We always look for bargains and spend our money wisely.

  22. Profile photo of Shorts Shorts says:

    My husband and I spend our money wisely, spending on bare necessities and even making sacrifices with necessities we need and don’t buy. Can’t imagine how much harder things will be when the baby comes but I’m praying for good things.

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