Dating Tips for Single Parents
For us single moms and dads, it can be tough to manage life with our children and still have a life of our own. That said, it is important for our children to see us in happy, healthy relationships. After all, we are their role models. It is easy as a single parent to fumble in the dating game. Knowing the rules of the game will help you play fair with all the involved parties.
Never conceal the fact that you have kids. You need to know upfront whether or not someone you are dating is okay with your children. Try and gauge their reaction when the subject comes up. They don't have to jump for joy over your children, but they should be interested and accepting. If they show no interest and seem put off by your situation that is a red flag that they may not be an ideal partner for you.
Dates are Friends
When your children are little, it is tough for them to understand the concept of dating. For this reason, you should forgo presenting a date as a love interest until you are more secure in the relationship. Remember, we are not the only ones who get attached. If your child starts looking at a regular love interest as a father figure, it could be devastating if that relationship ends.
You don't have to avoid brining a date by or having them pick you up. However, resist the temptation to bring a new love interest around for extended time periods or on a regular basis. If they are over every night and spending time with your kids, it doesn't matter whether you present them as a friend or not, your kids will become attached to them. Until things are more serious they shouldn't be around anymore than any other friend would be.
Prepare for Trouble
It is not uncommon for kids to be downright awful to the people their parents date. This may happen from the beginning or it may occur later down the line when things become more serious. Children have a hard time sharing their parents with others, and often feel jealous over potential love interests. They may also fear change. It is important not to allow your children to control you, but you should also reassure them of their position in your life.