Current Parenting Trends

 

family of threeTV Babysitting
I think most parents will agree that the TV can be an enticing babysitter. With the channels dedicated to baby programs or “educational” shows, letting your child constantly watch TV may teach him or her something, but it can also damage your child. The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages exposure to TV, especially in children under two years old. Instead of setting your child in front of the TV, play a game, read a book, or take a walk. Social interaction is crucial to developing a well-rounded child.

Helicopter Parenting
“Helicopter parenting” is a slang term that describes a parent that hovers over a child, ready to fly in and save the day at the slightest issue. From fighting with teachers who have “offended” their child to making every choice and decision for their child, a helicopter parent can handicap their children later in life. Dr. Ken Haller, an associate professor of pediatrics at Saint Louis University School of Medicine, warns, “If a parent becomes so enmeshed in the child's life that they can't let go, it becomes embarrassing for the child,” according to a CNN article on helicopter parenting. Children need to learn to make their own decisions and fight their own battles. Loosen your grip on your children as they get older, teach them how to make their own choices, and then let them stumble without catching them before they hit the ground.

No More Spanking
“Spare the rod and spoil the child” was a phrase originally seen in literature in Samuel Butler’s poem “Hudibras”. The saying seems to come up as a defense for spanking children. While spanking children may have been a popular form of discipline in the past, it is losing its appeal among a newer generation of parents. Dr. Sears warns that spanking teaches your children that it is OK to hit, and promotes anger. Instead of spanking, try traditional time outs and redirection.

Child-Led Parenting
Child-led parenting is when the parent is in charge, but sensitive to the child’s need. For example, if your child doesn’t want to go to bed at an allotted time, you would allow your child to go to bed when he or she wants, no matter if it is earlier or later than the specified time. Mealtime is also another thing; your child would get to choose when to eat and what to eat. The main idea is that children are not machines and should be given the freedom to make their own choices. While this parenting technique may work well for some children, it can also present a situation where your child rules the home, instead of the other way around.

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  1. I’ll be doing the no-spanking method, because I used to get them when i was younger and it messed me up now that i am older. but i will pop a hand and that’s it

  2. Miriam says:

    My child is going through a stage where she is defiant for me most of the time. I am losing patience with her and am afraid I will lose my cool and teach her anger instead of love. It has been a struggle for me but these article sure do help out.

  3. but will watch a little tv and educational programs and thats it

  4. i will not be doning none of these, but what comes to my best interest and my child

  5. Marilyn says:

    Spanking them just teaches them to be afraid of you. I don’t even believe in spanking my pets! It just seems cruel and wrong.

  6. Megan says:

    I think if you can avoid spanking your child because they don’t really need it – great. If you can reason with your child and they respond well to that, that is a wonderful thing… but honestly, not all kids are like that, and some need the occasional spanking. I love what one commenter said about not hitting out of anger, too.
    As for helicopter parenting and child-led parenting… I think it is fair to take a middle-ground approach. Children should learn consequences for their actions, but they are not adults, so you shouldn’t ALWAYS come swooping in for the rescue, but it would be equally horrible to abandon them when attention is truly needed.
    I like to let my child choose when or what to eat when possible, and I am flexible with her schedule. She doesn’t always go to bed at the exact same time every night, and I don’t force her to eat when she isn’t hungry. I think this allows her to be a more flexible and adaptable person. But she is not allowed to reject certain kinds of food because she would rather have something else.

    Well, that’s just what’s working for us, though. Some kids and their families require more structure due to a different lifestyle or personality, and that’s okay!

  7. JoyRied says:

    In leu of spanking- I was spanked as a child and I still know that it wasn’t ok to hit. Whenever I was spanked my mom and dad made it very clear why I was being punished and that they were doing it out of love to teach me. Plus they never did it out of anger. So I don’t see how spanking could cause a child to think anger and hitting are ok.

    • Megan says:

      Exactly, I knew why I was getting spanked.
      Most of the time, just the threat of “the belt” was enough to correct my behavior.
      As I got older, it was the threat of being grounded.

      I learned consequences to my bad behavior and plan to teach my daughter consequences for HER bad behavior, when it’s time to cross that bridge.

  8. MAMASEXXY says:

    I NEVER LET MY CHILDREN WATCH TO MUCH TV, AND I APPLY WHAT IS NEED IN MY CIRCUMSTANCES.

  9. Janice says:

    I like the middle road, and only apply what fits my circumstances, and my life.

  10. Kids are not the adults. The parents need to make decisions – what’s for dinner, when to go to bed, when to clean up. Parents shouldn’t fight their children’s battles and tell them they’re always right. This is why kids have no manners and believe they can do no wrong. This generation is a mess.

  11. Jennifer says:

    I’m more of a free spirit parent 24 years old and still believe in the old fashion ways in my hippie life.

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