Would You Ever “Trick” Your Man Into Pregnancy?
Have you ever heard of those women who lament about wanting a baby so badly but blame their partners for not wanting a baby?
“I want another baby sooo much!” they'll say. “But my husband won't let us have another one!”
Well, call me crazy, but when I hear comments like that, I can't help but think…
Are they ever tempted to “trick” their men into pregnancy?
I mean, I'm not saying that it's right or ethical, of course, but I have to admit that a tiny part of me has to wonder if these women are not tempted to “accidentally” get pregnant? To forget to take their birth control pill one day or miss a doctor's appointment to get their insert changed? To maybe feel a little frisky and forget to cover up in the heat of the moment? It would be far too easy to throw up your hands and then say, “Whoops! It must have been meant to be!”
Having experienced a bit of an unplanned pregnancy myself, I can't imagine how it would feel to be tricked into a pregnancy–when a pregnancy is unexpected, it can cause your entire world to upheave. And then to add a partner doing it on purpose?
On the flip side, I can't imagine how difficult it would be to want another baby, to long to hold that little bundle in your arms, but to have a partner in disagreement with you about adding to your family. The thoughts of having a baby would quickly become all-consuming.
In this situation, I can say that there's no easy answer. You can't make someone want a baby anymore than you can make someone not want a baby. So maybe the situation only points to the need for a couple to sit down and have some serious conversations and discussions–before it ruins their relationship.
What do you think–what's the best way to handle the situation when one partner wants a baby, but the other doesn't?
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