Would You Ever “Trick” Your Man Into Pregnancy?

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Have you ever heard of those women who lament about wanting a baby so badly but blame their partners for not wanting a baby?

“I want another baby sooo much!” they'll say. “But my husband won't let us have another one!”

Well, call me crazy, but when I hear comments like that, I can't help but think…

Are they ever tempted to “trick” their men into pregnancy? 

I mean, I'm not saying that it's right or ethical, of course, but I have to admit that a tiny part of me has to wonder if these women are not tempted to “accidentally” get pregnant? To forget to take their birth control pill one day or miss a doctor's appointment to get their insert changed? To maybe feel a little frisky and forget to cover up in the heat of the moment? It would be far too easy to throw up your hands and then say, “Whoops! It must have been meant to be!”

Having experienced a bit of an unplanned pregnancy myself, I can't imagine how it would feel to be tricked into a pregnancy–when a pregnancy is unexpected, it can cause your entire world to upheave. And then to add a partner doing it on purpose?

Shudder.

On the flip side, I can't imagine how difficult it would be to want another baby, to long to hold that little bundle in your arms, but to have a partner in disagreement with you about adding to your family. The thoughts of having a baby would quickly become all-consuming. 

In this situation, I can say that there's no easy answer. You can't make someone want a baby anymore than you can make someone not want a baby. So maybe the situation only points to the need for a couple to sit down and have some serious conversations and discussions–before it ruins their relationship. 

What do you think–what's the best way to handle the situation when one partner wants a baby, but the other doesn't? 

Image via J & J Brusie Photography

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Would You Ever “Trick” Your Man Into Pregnancy?

Chaunie Brusie is a coffee mug addict, a labor and delivery nurse turned freelance writer, and a young(ish) mom of four. She is the author of "Tiny Blue Lines: Preparing For Your Baby, Moving Forward In Faith, & Reclaiming Your Life In An Unplanned Pregnancy" and "The Moments That Made You A Mother". She also runs Passion Meets Practicality, a community of tips + inspiration for work-at-home mothers. ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Chantal Chantal says:

    It is easy to say “never”. It does become all consuming. I have never tricked outright (poked holes, went off birth control) but I have counted days without him knowing and for the latest one, made a deals he never thought I would keep my end on. Sometimes they are never ready. It is really a make or brake time for them.

  2. Profile photo of sayhola sayhola says:

    I could NEVER do it… but a male friend of mine once suggested poking a hole right through the whole condom package – he’d never know. Eeek!

  3. Profile photo of Jennifer Jennifer says:

    If the woman wants another and the man does not they need to sit down and decide together what to do. There are things in relationships that are deal breakers and things that are not can be compromised on. If its a deal breaker for them both and neither want to budge then they should not be together.

  4. Profile photo of Krystal Krystal says:

    I don’t know, I’m pregnant now and what crazy is weeks before i found out i was pregnant my spouse and i had this discussion. He wanted to get pregnant and i didn’t so that raises the the “Was I tricked into getting pregnant” so now its like sometimes i want to this bby but sometimes i don’t, i have a 5yr old and im 26 and also went thru delivering a stillborn. i wasn’t ready for another child but im due in January….So plz pray for me as my life is getting ready to change drastically

  5. Profile photo of april april says:

    i know someone who tricked her boy friend and then ended up giving her rights up to the dad because she was abusing the baby. now she is preggers again and i am a little worried about this baby.

  6. Profile photo of Ellamiek says:

    I could never even imagine doing this without my husband being ready for it. Unless it happened on accident, then he better be ready!

  7. Profile photo of Phammom Phammom says:

    Discuss this before you get married so you know If your on the same path.

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