Will this Bridezilla’s Children ‘Have a Gratitude Attitude’?

bride with bad attitudeBrides, while in wedding-planning mode, may sometimes come across a bit … witchy. But due to the stress that almost always surrounds weddings, a little leniency can usually be given. However, this ill-mannered “Bridezilla” needs a few etiquette lessons, and a whole lot of gratitude.

A recent article in the HuffingtonPost was about an email received from a woman named Tanya, regarding a wedding she’d recently attended. The bride of that wedding – obviously displeased with her gift from Tanya – sent her a Facebook message expressing “her dissatisfaction with the $100 wedding gift she received from Tanya and her date.” 

According to the article, the Facebook message said:

“Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.” [all sic]

This Bridezilla needed a little more “Gratitude Attitude”!

Tanya also wrote, “It's infuriating that she had the nerve to make assumptions about my finances, and assume that I or my boyfriend had an extra $400 lying around. Those $100 were hard-earned and she didn't show an ounce of gratitude for what she did receive. That money didn't grow on a tree.”

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Do you remember the Standin’ Tall cassette tapes? I used to listen to them as a child while lying in bed at night. One particular cassette, Standin’ Tall with Gratitude, had a catchy song that I still remember and occasionally sing bits of to my daughter.

Check it out at minute 5:13 – 

I think this bride needed a little more “Gratitude Attitude,” don’t you?


Tanya had a decent amount of student debt, a part-time job, and – in my personal opinion – gave more than enough money to this bride. But she's not the only bridezilla out there, as evidenced the the text assault conducted by these brides. Is this a trend we should expect to continue?  

Do your children have a “Gratitude Attitude”? How would you respond to this bride if she sent a similar message to you?

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Will this Bridezilla’s Children ‘Have a Gratitude Attitude’?

Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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  1. SweetNSmall says:

    The bride is stupid to assume that guests are going to help to pay for THEIR wedding. First rule of being a host/hostess of a party? Unless you say otherwise (such as there will be a small fee or BYOB or something) it’s free. Host/hostess’s take care of their guests at the host/hostess’s expense. I’d reply back saying something around the lines of: “I’m sorry you don’t appreciate mine and my boyfriend’s gift. That’s astounding that you paid so much for a wedding, but what’s more astounding is the fact that you paid so much for the wedding for a marriage that (with your current attitude) will likely not last. You won’t have to worry about “paying me back” at my wedding, as I wasn’t planning to invite you anyways. Your husband is welcome to come when I do get married.”

    Then again, when I’m disrespected any respect towards that person (regardless of how much they had built up) is dropped completely.

  2. nichole says:

    no matter the brides situation, it was wrong and just plain aweful of her to act like that!!!! if you choose to pay for something for your wedding its not your guests responcibility to make up the amount you paid.. a gift, while normally brought by people attending, isnt actually mandatory, and this bride needs to remember that. this woman would definetly not be invited to my wedding if i were this guest. while i cant tell for sure, i believe my children will not act like this. my hubby and i are trying hard, expecially around the holidays, to teach them that while gifts are nice and fun, you dont always get them from people, and they most certainly are not a requirement. and we try to teach them that you have to work for what you have. things are not just handed to you, and noone is responcible for you but you. hopefully it sinks in and sticks, like it sofar has, so they will not be like this woman.

  3. I don’t think this is acceptable behavior, bride or not. People are just too rude these days and don’t appreciate anything.


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