Why It’s Important to Date Your Spouse – Plus a Download with 7 Exclusive Tips
I love this picture! Do you see that little arm sneaking in to interrupt the 30 seconds of time we had together? This picture depicts the struggle as parents to have the time to connect after a long day. There is schoolwork to be finished, dinner to be cooked and eaten, chores to be done, sports to be played, showers to be had, and then the long awaited bed time … finally, it’s quiet!
You and I both know that this isn’t actual “quiet time” to sit back and put your feet up. This is quiet time to accomplish everything you couldn’t get done during the day. With all the little people begging for your attention every waking second, a shower is a welcomed gem. This is the time to “catch up” on your work. Dishes still need to be done, everything needs to be prepared for the next day and if you work from home, this is the time when you can really accomplish a few things. Finding the time to “do everything” is a real struggle.
We were a couple before all these kiddos came along and we will be a couple once they leave our home. This isn’t the time to only pay attention to our children, we must also continue to nourish our relationship with our spouse. Making a list of priorities is the first step to carving out that much needed time with your spouse. Your spouse should be your #1 priority when it comes to relationships and if you put your relationship at the top of your priorities and make an effort to honor that decision, you will be stronger because of it.
You may disagree with me and say that your kids should be your #1 priority. I completely understand where you are coming from, however, you want to model to your children the importance of a healthy marriage relationship first. Remember, they may not hear what you say but they are studying your every move!
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How to Make Dating Your Spouse a Priority
- Date Night ~ Date night doesn’t always have to be outside of the house, ours are usually at home. When the kids are in bed this can be your time to connect, watch a movie, have a late dinner, play a game, or sit by a campfire while looking at the stars. No matter what it is, just make the time!
- Schedule Time ~ You do need to plan for your dates – even the ones at home. Schedule them on the calendar just like you would a haircut and strive for at least 1 per week. If you’re wondering why you would have to schedule, it’s so you actually do it! If your kids are older, talk with them and let them know what’s expected of them when Mommy & Daddy are having a date at home.
- Plan Time Away ~ Time away is so important! I know this isn’t always easy to do, especially if you’re on a budget, but planning a night away from the kids is a must. A few ideas, if you are on a budget, would be to see if the kids could stay at grandma and grandpas for the night, then you have the house to yourselves. Go camping if you want to get away.
- Talk While You’re In The Car ~ Yep, put down the phone! I love having this time with my hubby. Since we live a distance from just about everything we usually have at least a 20 minute drive when we go places as a family. This is a perfect time to connect. Bring a few things for the kids to do in the vehicle and talk away with your loved one.
Many times we let the busyness of everyday life get in the way of following through with making our spouse an important part of our day. If you don’t start today you probably won’t start tomorrow either. Plan that date night, write a love letter, or just sit and talk!
Love & Health,