Why Amber Rose Changed Her Birth Plan
Amber Rose wanted to have a home birth even before she became pregnant last year. She watched The Business of Being Born and knew that the experiences she saw on the documentary were ones she wanted to recreate when she had a child of her own. After becoming pregnant, she got her fiancé Wiz Khalifa on board, hired a doula, got a birthing pool, and had everything ready to welcome her son Sebastian into the world in the privacy of her own home.
However, her plans took a turn when at 8-months pregnant when she found out that Sebastian was breech. Unfortunately, all outside interventions — homeopathic and medical — failed and she had to schedule a c-section. She said on The Ricki Lake Show, “At that point, after I tried everything, I was like, ‘I just want my baby, if I have to have a c-section, fine.’ But I told Wiz, ‘If we go to the hospital and my baby turns around, I’m going back home!’”
She went on to admit that it wasn’t the birth that they wanted, but they focused on preparing for the c-section just as they had prepared for the home birth. Khalifa offered her support through the scary process, staying by her side the whole time. The couple welcomed baby boy Sebastian successfully and feel happy with their decision, despite it being different from their original plan. They are already planning a home birth with their future children.
I understand her disappointment at not getting the birth she wanted, but respect her choice to do what she felt was best for her baby. I have some strong feelings on c-sections after my own births. With my first son I was a young, first time mom seeing a doctor who had his own practice. I was naive enough to listen to him when he started telling me at just six months pregnant that I might need a c-section. I vividly remember the day he scheduled my induction and rode down with me in the elevator. He said, “I am not here to be a hero, if I think you need a c-section you need to listen.”
I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised when after just six hours of labor he said I wasn’t progressing and needed a c-section. How convenient that it also happened to be six at night and he did not have a partner to take over my labor. That decision affected all of my births after my son, and while I was able to have a vaginal birth for my second, I had to have a c-section for my third because the hospital I delivered at refused to handle a VBAC and the next nearest hospital was three hours away. I hope Amber Rose finds supportive healthcare professionals and is able to have the births she wants in the future.
Did your birth go as planned?
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