Want to Make Mom Friends? There’s an App For That
Many of us moms struggle with making friends. For some reason, after having kids, we morph into some kind of strange social outcast that only knows how to communicate in words like “potty,” “baba,” and “paci.”
We worry that the world outside of our little bubble at home has completely passed us by, along with fashion trends (when did scrunchies come back? And more importantly, why did they ever leave?), rendering us fearful of making small talk and revealing the truth about our non-hip mom selves. And it’s true: we become so consumed by our baby that it can be hard to keep up with current events, let alone remember what interests we enjoyed before having kids.
Honestly, there is no one that needs friends more than moms — I mean, who else spends most of their days spewing out baby babble? But ironically, it’s never harder to make friends than when you’re a mom. So what’s a mom to do? Well, like most of how else we run our lives: there’s an app for that.
The friend-making app for moms is called Peanut and it was launched by Michelle Kennedy, who founded the app after she became a mom and struggled with finding friends. According to a profile in Forbes, the app has an impressive 500K users, 10 million messages, and 100 million profile views after only launching a mere year ago in 2017.
Kennedy told her story to the magazine about how she was once a lawyer and decided to use her connections and experience to build the social network that she needed for herself. Today, the app has grown not just as a way to meet other moms looking for friendship and connection, but as a digital platform to find support on everything from sex and relationships to baby development. Because after all, what would a good mom-to-mom friendship be without mentioning the kids once in a while, right?
So, how exactly does a mom friendship app work? Well, as the website explains, the concept is pretty simple: first of all, the app is free, which is helpful because moms are usually on a budget. Once you download the app, you can create your own profile and then, like dating apps, you “connect” with women who have similar interests to you that are also local. You could connect with moms who share similar hobbies, kids’ ages, or just general outlooks on life, for instance. The app has pre-set filters to help you choose your own profile settings and categorize them with other moms. For instance, there are options that include if you enjoy drinking or working out. And then, you have the option to connect with those moms and just chat via the app or arrange for a real-life meet-up.
Another benefit of using the Peanut app is that moms can share their experiences, mothering milestones, and get and share advice, just like they do on social networks, without needing a full Facebook or Google account. I mean, let’s face it–some of us are just darn sick of Facebook. Maybe we want to use Facebook for less personal reasons, or maybe you just don’t want your coworkers inundated with pictures of your baby or updates on your breastfeeding journey–the Peanut app gives you a safe place to share those experiences with moms who “get” it and want to share in them with you–without danger that other people, like your husband’s brother’s cousin, will see it.
Currently, the Peanut app has a 4/5 star rating on the App store and Kennedy noted in her interview that they are working on improving the user experience for the app. And of course, Peanut is not the only app to help moms find mom friends–you can browse a full list of apps designed specifically to help you find more friends.
And if you feel weird about using an app to help you find friends as a mom, don’t. Think about it: so much of our lives depends on apps, from ordering groceries to banking, so why wouldn’t we use apps for something that could potentially enrich our lives as women and mothers too?
“Motherhood is different now,” Peanut app’s founder pointed out. “We are not living in the same generation as our mothers or their mothers …”
She’s not wrong, so fire up those apps, ladies, no shame allowed!