Top 10 Worthless Worries
Moms worry. A lot. I tend to be a worry wart and have to constantly remind myself to calm down, take a breath, and not ‘borrow trouble' by worrying about things that will likely never happen.
Looking back, it’s funny to think of some of the things that I worried about excessively – even shed tears over – that turned out to be fine in the end.
Today, I share my Top 10 worthless worries with you. And please, help the rest of us out by sharing some of the things that you have worried about that wasted your time.
1. Not being able to give birth. I admit, that I thought for a long time I was not going to be able to actually give birth. I was terrified of the thought of pushing twins through my vagina. What if I turned out to be a complete anomaly that was unable to give birth? What if the pain was too much to bear? What if the babies wouldn’t come out and got stuck? Oy vey! Obviously, all turned out well in this category.
2. That my children wouldn’t be able to read. I kept my kids home until kindergarten. So when they got to kindergarten they were slightly behind, and I had all this anxiety thinking that they would NEVER learn to read. Again, given time, they have all learned to read, and read well.
3. That my kids would hate me. I have since realized that our teenagers WILL ‘hate' us from time to time. And that probably means we are doing a good job!! Plus, I know that they love me more than they hate me.
4. That one of my children would never, ever potty train. Oh, the stress. During that time, it felt like such a big deal – like I was a failure as a mother, and of course I worried that something was wrong with my daughter. Then one day, she was potty trained. Just like that.
5. That I would forget or lose my child. Even now sometimes, I am constantly checking the back seat to take count of the kiddos. I used to have nightmares that I left them somewhere. Talk about panic.
6. That they would never get better. When my kids were little and would get a fever, I would get so incredibly stressed out because I thought they were never going to get better. I would literally stand over them 24/7, taking their temperatures constantly, and calling the doctor a zillion times just to make sure that everything was okay. And then, they would get better. Truth is I have always worried a bit too much when my kids are sick.
7. Switched at birth. Before I went in to have my kids, I would give STRICT instructions to my husband to STAY with the baby the entire time. Since I had C-sections, I was terrified that a nurse would take my baby out of the room and accidentally switch them. My poor husband was the most awesome tag-along, nurse stalking dad in the hospital.
8. That I would poop on the doctor during labor. No explanation needed. And it didn’t happen, or if it did – I didn’t know about it. And really, by the time you are knee deep in labor – who cares, right?
9. Driving on the interstate with the kids in my car. This one STILL gets me. Whenever we have a long trip planned, on the interstate – I go into panic/worry mode. Maybe it’s the big trucks, or the speeds that people are driving. But I would take back country roads over the interstate any day of the week – even if it did take an extra 5 hours to reach my destination.
10. That my kids aren’t happy. Last, but certainly not least – is the nagging worry that my kids won’t be happy. Every mom wants her kids to be happy. As your kids become teenagers, it’s harder to tell if they are happy about ANYTHING at all, and all I can do is hope and pray that when they snap out of their hormonal funks, they will look back on their childhood and be happy about it. No mom wants to be the one responsible for their adult children seeking therapy!
What are some of the things that you have worried about? What is your advice for other moms that tend to worry a lot?