Transitioning from Two to Three Children – A Nice Surprise

three small brothers
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A survey published in May 2013 revealed that mothers of three children experience more stress than those who only have one, two, or even four children.  The survey asked moms to rate their stress level on a scale of 1-10, with ten being the most stressed.  On average moms rated their stress level a 8.5.  

I am five months into being a mother of three and I find myself in the minority.

When I first became pregnant with baby number three, I wasn’t worried that my husband and I would be outnumbered by little people. My biggest concern was how my youngest child, Noah, would do with the transition of going from the baby of the family to the middle child. Since I couldn't exactly sit down and have a rational conversation with him about the fact that his life was going to drastically change, I was expecting the worst.

 As long as I remembered that the little things did not matter, I remained calm enough to handle anything.

My fears subsided on Ryker’s first day of life, when my husband brought the boys to meet their new brother. I introduced Ryker to Xander and Noah as their new baby brother. The moment Noah saw his baby brother his smile said it all, pure love. Xander asked me “So it’s a boy not a girl?” (All throughout my pregnancy he was convinced I was having a girl.). Xander and Noah’s first visit with their new sibling went just as I hoped. The next evening when they came to visit, Noah immediately called Ryker by his name, which completely impressed me. I loved watching him stand over Ryker and look at his tiny little feet.

Both Noah and Xander wear the title of big brother well.  They laugh when Ryker smiles and giggles at them and enjoy bringing him toys.  Just yesterday Xander cheered in excitement when Ryker rolled over for the very first time.  Moments like this warm my heart and make all the fighting and yelling between the older two worth it.  

When I was on maternity leave this past summer, life was hectic with a newborn, toddler, and preschooler.  There was always someone who needed their nose wiped, diaper changed, or tears wiped away.  Rarely did the toddler and newborn nap at the same time.  As long as I remembered that the little things did not matter, I remained calm enough to handle anything.  Yet if I started looking around my house at all the chores that weren't getting done, I felt my stress level rise.  When I started feeling stressed, my patience for the boys began to plummet.  I didn't like myself when I became a grumpy mommy, so instead I let go of the idea that my house would ever be completely clean again.  I know this all sounds pretty cliche, but it worked.  

Life with three children is loud and hectic, but I wouldn't trade it in for the world. 

Not everyday is sunshine and rainbows with three young children to care for, but I've been fortunate because at this point, my stress level has not increased with the addition to our family.  In fact, another baby to love has brought me more joy and happiness than I could ever imagine.  As my brood grows up together, I hope that I can teach them to love each other fiercely. The bond of family is everything.  

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How many children do you have? Did you notice a change in stress level as you added to your family?  

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Transitioning from Two to Three Children – A Nice Surprise

Mindi is a working mom with three boys ages 4, 2, and an infant (born June 2013). She spent her first 8 years of her career in Speech-Language Pathology at a Children's Hospital. She currently works with adults and children in home health. The real fun for her happens when she is at home with her boys, chasing them around and pretending to be a super hero. She blogs about life as a working mom at Simply Stavish. Her weekly feature, Words in the Sand, teaches parents how to grow their child's s ... More

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2 comments

  1. mommy nhoj says:

    For four years, we were 3. I cannot fully remember how’s home way back then but I believe that period was fun. We have played together outside along the trees and bushes. Got dirty and scolded all together. When the next 2 siblings came, I assume a more mature role. That was to look after the kids 🙂

  2. Timothy says:

    three is company.. wasn’t that a show ?

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