For 15 Years, This Husband Has Done One Simple Thing Each Month

I once did consulting work for a water utility, whose employees were struggling with how best utilize social media.

“Everybody likes saving water and money,” I suggested. “Why not post a ‘water saving tip’ each day?”

The response I received was in almost complete unison: “No, we’ll run out of tips. There are only so many ideas for saving water.”

As time went on working with them, I slowly realized the truth in their claim. The reality is, there are only a few water spouts in our homes. And with some 250 working days a year times X number of years – yes, you do indeed eventually run out of tips to save water.

However, you never – I repeat, never – exhaust all ideas when it comes to doing thoughtful, caring things for your spouse. We’ve all seen these lists scattered about the Internet, but curiously, they usually have a number placed on them. For example:

– “25 Cute Things To Do for Your Spouse”

– “10 Little Things Connected Couples Do”

– “51 Things to Brighten Your Spouse’s Day”

Image via Flickr/ Kumon

This year my wife and I celebrate 15 years of marriage. We were married on the 13th of the month (no, it wasn’t a Friday). And so, every 13th of the month I’ve given her a gift or have done something for her since our wedding day. The gesture is sometimes sentimental, sometimes silly, and sometimes fun. I’ve indulged her with gifts large and small, some bought and some homemade. The deeds have included new clothes, bringing home take-out, surprising her with a movie, a homemade CD, or her favorite pack of gum.

In those 15 years, I’ve been afforded 180 consecutive moments (more like opportunities) to show thoughtfulness, to recall our marriage vows. And I haven’t missed one. I share this not for a pat on the back or any praise. I share this to assure you that there is no quantifiable limit to creativity in showing love – and to encourage you to do the same.

Image via Tom Konecny

When you think about it, based on a 50-year marriage plan, we’re still in the early stages! So, however you honor your spouse, the point is that you should do it regularly – not just on Valentine’s Day or your anniversary. Make it a routine, and not only will your wife appreciate it, but your kids will benefit from witnessing dad loving mom and exhibiting a lifetime of love. That’s key because love is not merely saying, it is doing. 

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Just remember, you may be growing older little by little every day, but thoughtfulness never grows old.

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For 15 Years, This Husband Has Done One Simple Thing Each Month

Tom Konecny is a dad of four children and husband to wife, Erika. Tom currently serves as a private consultant in writing, communications and marketing. In 2013, Tom founded Dad Marketing, a site dedicated to exploring the world of marketing to dads. He previously worked in sports marketing, served as an associate editor and writer for several publications, and directed an award-winning corporate marketing department. His first book, "DADLY Dollar$" will be published this summer, and he is c ... More

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