The Year You Meet Your Baby

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“Happy New Year!”

People cheered!

Confetti fell!

Glasses clinked!

And, in my case, I snored and drooled on my pregnancy pillow.

You see, being pregnant made this celebration a little different from years past.  But even though I was  out cold before Ryan Seacrest even arrived in Times Square, this year is a celebration.

This year marks the year of my son’s birth!

And as I peek into the forefront of my third trimester, my focus is shifting from pregnancy concerns to the panic of “Holy crap!  He’s almost here!”  I’m preparing the best way I know.  I’m reading the books, storing sleep like I’m hibernating, and considering all sorts of infant feeding and sleeping agendas.  But am I ready?  I mean really, really ready?

Regardless of my stance on the “breast versus bottle” debate, I’m not ready.  At all.  I know what I’m aiming for.  I know what I “hope” happens, but until that little boy asserts his preferences and personality into the mix, I am completely blind.  I know this to be true because every time I mention my “plan” to my friends with children, they smirk. 

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I look forward to this year for many reasons- many, okay most, of them involving becoming a first time parent.  But it’s scary, isn’t it?  It’s scary to embark on the responsibilities of raising a baby and keeping him happy and healthy and safe, but to me, it’s even scarier to take on the responsibility of building a good adult from the ground up.  My husband and I have spent countless conversations discussing aspirations for our son’s future.  Some minor- like hoping he’s an adventurous eater and hoping he aspires to see the world.  And some major- like hoping he’s happy and brave and confident and gentle and curious and content.  We hope he makes a great friend and an even better partner.  And we hope he is born with an open mind and an open heart.

But our hopes are just hopes.  Our son will be who he is meant to be, and the best we can do is guide him through life, provide him with opportunity, and teach him what we know.  There is no book for that.  There is no book that says, “Follow these guidelines to raise the perfect adult”.  (Trust me though, if I learn the secret, you can bet your bottom dollar I’ll be writing that book!)

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The great news?  This is the year we begin our research!  Cheers to all the expectant parents, and I send my very best wishes to all of us as we embark on our journey towards shaping the babies of 2013!

What plans do you have for shaping your baby into the adult you hope him or her to be?

What do you think?

The Year You Meet Your Baby

Jennifer Bruno is a credentialed trainer by day and a freelance writer and aspiring photographer by night. Raised in rural Kansas, Jen moved to sunny Florida after college where she met her husband, who married her despite hearing her sing Dixie Chicks karaoke. Shortly after saying “I do”, they moved to New York City to fulfill their dream of living amongst the bright lights and skyscrapers. They currently share their cramped apartment with two modelesque miniature dachshunds named Millie an ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Megan Miller Megan Miller says:

    Hi Jennifer – I just discovered your blog and was so surprised by everything we have in common! I live in Queens, battled infertility, and am expecting my first baby in a couple of months. I cry at everything and feel like no matter what I do I won’t be prepared for this baby! Thanks for sharing all of your thoughts and feelings, it is so nice to read about someone who seems to feel the exact same way I do. Maybe your new son and my new daughter can have a play date later this year while you and I commiserate about postpartum pleasantries. 😉 All the best, please keep the posts coming!


  2. Profile photo of Nicole HempeckEditor Nicole Hempeck says:

    There definitely isn’t a book to get it all right in this parenting gig, but I have the same hope you do, to guide me children to be the best version of themselves and offer support. Hopefully they’ll be happy and content with their life as a result. SO excited for this new addition to your life Jennifer!


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