The Year You Meet Your Baby
“Happy New Year!”
And, in my case, I snored and drooled on my pregnancy pillow.
You see, being pregnant made this celebration a little different from years past. But even though I was out cold before Ryan Seacrest even arrived in Times Square, this year is a celebration.
This year marks the year of my son’s birth!
And as I peek into the forefront of my third trimester, my focus is shifting from pregnancy concerns to the panic of “Holy crap! He’s almost here!” I’m preparing the best way I know. I’m reading the books, storing sleep like I’m hibernating, and considering all sorts of infant feeding and sleeping agendas. But am I ready? I mean really, really ready?
Regardless of my stance on the “breast versus bottle” debate, I’m not ready. At all. I know what I’m aiming for. I know what I “hope” happens, but until that little boy asserts his preferences and personality into the mix, I am completely blind. I know this to be true because every time I mention my “plan” to my friends with children, they smirk.
I look forward to this year for many reasons- many, okay most, of them involving becoming a first time parent. But it’s scary, isn’t it? It’s scary to embark on the responsibilities of raising a baby and keeping him happy and healthy and safe, but to me, it’s even scarier to take on the responsibility of building a good adult from the ground up. My husband and I have spent countless conversations discussing aspirations for our son’s future. Some minor- like hoping he’s an adventurous eater and hoping he aspires to see the world. And some major- like hoping he’s happy and brave and confident and gentle and curious and content. We hope he makes a great friend and an even better partner. And we hope he is born with an open mind and an open heart.
But our hopes are just hopes. Our son will be who he is meant to be, and the best we can do is guide him through life, provide him with opportunity, and teach him what we know. There is no book for that. There is no book that says, “Follow these guidelines to raise the perfect adult”. (Trust me though, if I learn the secret, you can bet your bottom dollar I’ll be writing that book!)
The great news? This is the year we begin our research! Cheers to all the expectant parents, and I send my very best wishes to all of us as we embark on our journey towards shaping the babies of 2013!
What plans do you have for shaping your baby into the adult you hope him or her to be?