Telling the Kids Santa is Broke

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I remember being a child, and going back to school after the holidays and having to write a paper about what Santa brought me and what my family did over the holidays. 

And I remember, that there always seemed to be other kids in  my class who got sooooooooo (yes, those extra o's are for emphasis) much more than I did, and took fancy ski vacations over the holiday vacations while I stayed home and re-organized my closets. 

It sort of made my garnet earrings and prized Barbie doll Santa gifts small in comparison. (So much so, that I contemplated using my creative skills to make up some elaborate holiday story.) 

Now that I have kids of my own, I still find Santa inequity a difficult thing to explain. 

When my kids asked for crazy expensive presents, even when they were really little – believing that Santa gifts were free – I would always try to remind them that somehow we had to ‘pay' Santa for his gifts.  (I know, I know!)

But how else was I to explain that they were NOT going to get certain things that were clearly out of budget?

And how was I supposed to explain why some of their friends got such extravagant gifts while they got regular old toys and shoes, shirts and underwear.

After all, Santa is supposed to be fair and just and not play favorites with children, right?  He doesn't distinguish between the haves and the have-nots? 

To be honest, I still have not quite figured out how to explain to my younger kids, who believe in Santa – why other kids will GET more loot than they did on Christmas morning. 

Instead, I try to instill in them that they should be grateful and thankful for the toys they did get.  In our house, the kids think that their daddy and I have to pay Santa some sort of ‘fee' for Christmas, and that I set the ‘fee' low.  (Again, I know, it's stupid but I have not found another good way to explain!)

I also remind my children that I provide many things for them all year long and that the holidays are not just about getting presents and gifts. 

Yet still I know, they are kids; and they are thinking about magic and glitter and Santa riding on a sleigh. And even if they don't say it aloud, they are wondering why the heck Santa gave ‘dumb and mean old Sara' from school so much more than he gave to them. 

The one thing I know for sure is that soon enough – one day, it will all make sense.  They will grow up and not believe in things like Santa.  And this big wide world we live in is full of inequity. 

But I want to hear from YOU!  What do you say if your kids point out that so and so got so much more for Christmas than they did? 

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Telling the Kids Santa is Broke

Stef Daniel is the 40ish year old, experienced (meaning crazy already) mother of count ‘em…4 daughters (yes, she takes prayers) who have taught her nearly E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G she needs to know about raising kids and staying sane. She hails from a small town in Georgia where she lives with her family in a red tin roofed house (with just ONE bathroom mind you) on a farm - with tons of animals of course. One day, due to her sheer aversion to shoes and her immense lov ... More

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2 comments

  1. brittney says:

    Thats a good question! When i was little i remember one year my parents got us like 7 gifts a piece plus Santa got us like 2 or 3! Then the next year we got like 2 presents a piece plus like 1 gift from Santa. At the time of course you don’t know that Santa isn’t real and that mom and dad need to spend present money on food and keeping the eletricity on but thinking about it now i feel like a little brat! I can think back to complaining to my mom how we got so much one year and barely anything the next. It makes me wonder if it’s worth telling your kids there is Santa. I can’t even imagine how bad i made my parents feel even though they were spending literally everything they could! Man im glad my little guy isn’t even born yet because im going to need some time to think about the Santa situation. = /

  2. christine says:

    Easy fix , its what we did , Santa brings a single nice present, the best thing you have under the tree is from the guy in red 🙂 That way its easier to get them that one nice gift they have been wanting, to go with the Santa brings one present we do 3 gift Christmases, 1 thing they want, 1 thing they need and 1 surprise ( this is the Santa gift)

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