Teeny Weeny Bikini

child bikini

I gave up the bikini a long time ago. However, I'm not ready for the bathing suit with the little skirt quite yet either. It's not just about my shape, it's about my age and stage and just how much of me I want to be sharing with the world.

These days, I'm a fan of the “tankini.” It's a perfect design.

Enough about me. After all, this is a blog about child development.

I'm raising a daughter. Does it make a difference that she is a GIRL? You bet it does. You see, it doesn't matter if I didn't think it made any difference if she was a girl or a boy.  The world thinks differently.   The world definitely notices HER gender.

It's true there are many more opportunities for little girls than there were even a few decades ago. However, I still believe we have a long way to go. This is evidenced by the lack of female role models in jobs in our local police department, fire department, and the construction workers I see alongside the road, etc. I'm not the only one that notices. SHE notices too.

Where am I going with all this rambling? It's the teeny weeny bikini that is on my mind today.

TEENY. WEENY. (very cute) BIKINIS. Do they belong on your infant or toddler little girl?

Are they simply adorable or are we already helping to define who we think our little girls are or who society thinks they should be?

I imagine you are thinking I am crazy about now. Step back for a moment and think about it.

Doesn't how we dress impact how others treat us?

Doesn't how we dress impact the way we feel about ourselves?

Doesn't how we dress impact what we can and can't do (again, I go to back to the comforts of the tankini vs. the bikini).

I'm the first to ooooo and awwww at that little toddler in the pink bikini. It is cute.

However, you won't find my daughter in any bikini during these summer days.

How about you?

What do you think?

Teeny Weeny Bikini

Jeannie Fleming-Gifford is a mama to one little lady, freelance writer, and the director of education for a non-profit community school of the arts. Graduating with a B.A. in Music and a M.A. in Child Development, Jeannie began her career in quality child development programs as a teacher, then moved into creative administrative roles with science centers, symphony orchestras and arts programs. Owner of 170+ year old house, Jeannie loves living in small town America where walks to the park and ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Kayla Kayla says:

    I do not think the “teeny weeny bikinis” on any girl before the age of 18 is appropriate. I think that there are too many parents out there that forget that there are perverts in the world and there are waaaay more than you think there are. I am putting my daughter in the surfer bathing suits that are like a t-shirt because not only does it keep her covered but it provides protection from the sun. It does make me shake my head when I see a 4 year old in a tiny bikini that barely covers her areas…there is no situation where that should happen and I don’t understand why people think it’s cute.

  2. Profile photo of ErinF ErinF says:

    We live in a misogynistic society that makes women and their sexuality a public commodity. Regardless of how we dress, others will treat us with or without respect according to what they learned from the society that raised them.

  3. Profile photo of Amanda Amanda says:

    I think promiscuity starts way to young these days, if you have your child believe it is ok to wear something so revealing at a young age that will most likely continue into teenage years. I may sound a bit radical putting it like that but if you take one look at our society and how little girls and young women are showing off their bodies, it’s no surprise when you see something on the news about a little girl being raped.

    • Profile photo of Kayla Kayla says:

      rape has happened far before girls/women have been wearing these clothes. What it is is that people have not raised their sons correctly. If we raise good, morally responsible young men, then rape will decrease.

  4. i believe to each their own i like variety and choices i have a one piece a tankini and a bikini (not skimpy but cute ) all of them i let my baby girl help me pick out and when we go to the beach or the sprinklers at the park i let her choose what she feels confortable in . same goes for her regular clothing i want my daughter to feel she has some control over her own self. the faqct she happens to have good taste just makes things easier for me since theres no fighting over things to short or tight my babys active so she likes confortable cloths so yay me i believe the hard times will come when she starts school and other children fill her head and start to influence how she percieves herself as well as others in reguards to appearence and "gear" but ill always instill the importance of being her own person and following her own trend instead of being another trashy groupie .

  5. I think it depends on the age of the child. If she’s just a little baby I agree that it’s cute and it is easier for changing reasons. As they get older I think they should be covered up so they don’t think it’s okay to wear very skimpy clothes. Curves do make a difference.

  6. i like bikinis or one pieces just depends as long as it is not too little or too tight it is okay and same for when they get older. there are some adults that wear swimsuits that look trashy just my opinion tought.

  7. Profile photo of heather heather says:

    My 1yo wears a bikini, and yes, it’s cute, but that’s not why she wears it. I originally bought her a one-piece, but they don’t make baby girl swimsuits with snaps like onesies. You have to somehow manage to pull that wet spandex down a wet, wiggly baby to get to the diaper that you hope doesn’t get pulled down with the swimsuit. A baby bikini is SO MUCH EASIER for a diaper change. Think about putting your kid in a romper without snaps at the bottom, and then trying to change their diaper. You have to completely undress them to do it. Not fun, especially when they’re trying to get away from you. And guess what? When she’s out of diapers, there will be no more bikinis until she’s A LOT older. High school at the youngest. So while you say the baby bikini is about a stereotype, I say it’s about ease of use! At least it is for me.

  8. i sorta get what both r saying i have a two and half yr old niece whom i have taken care of since she was 2 wks old last yr she had the cute little tiny sailor bikini this yr she has went to more material why because i see how men look at women in barely there swimsuits so i dicussed it with my sis and we bith opted for more coverage ,heres something we worry over the tiny girls whos worrying over these barely covered teens i have a 14vyr old son and another baby on the way my son begged for it not to be a girl because of the way his girl friends dress it scares him so maybe someone needs to send a newslettter out to all parents of teenage daughters!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  9. Profile photo of marylove marylove says:

    My husband and I were talking about this the other night! We have 2 boys and another on the way, but if we did have a girl, there is no way she would be wearing a bikini untill she was at least into her early teens. I know that when I was maybe a year or 2 my mom had a bikini for me but after then, it was all one pieces! When I finally got to wear a bikini again, it wasn’t to show off my body… It was because I couldn’t find a one piece that would fit! I’m short and very curvy with almost no waist… Try finding even a pair of pants that would fit let alone a one peice bathing suit! Even then, if they had made the tankini I would have rather worn that over a tiny bikini! If I ever have a girl, I thank who ever invented the tankini because that is what she is going to wear if she has the same physical problem with clothes I had!


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