Staying in Touch with Long Distance Family
I miss my brother. I really wish that his kids could play with my kids on a daily basis. I wish that we could spend Saturday afternoons bowling with our children, or that it would be simple to get closer to my sister in law. I miss my folks in Florida too. How nice it would be to have them here every day, never missing my childrens softball game or school performance. And to be able to see their face anytime I wanted to.
What I wouldnt give to be close to my entire family. Sometimes, when I see others enjoying their siblings and growing the family cousin tree from one generation to the next, I wonder why in the world we are all spread out so far across the country.
Worse, staying in touch for me, is difficult. I can barely make the phone call to the doctor that I have meaning to call for a month, let alone carve out enough time to have a lucid conversation with someone else. And when I do have free time, I want to take a shower or sleep, or watch something on television without having to get up.
In the long run, life seems to take over – and it can truly wreak havoc on our long distance relationships.
The kids and I have tried SKype. I feel lucky that text messaging can allow me to isntantly share bits and pieces of my life in the very moment that they occurred. I love Email, and Facebook for keeping updated with pictures and videos of my family members that live far away. But somehow, its still not the same as simply being able to see them anytime I wanted to.
It is also difficult raising children when you dont have any extended family near by. Suddenly, you are so proud of your kids that you want to share every nitty gritty detail with the people you love, but no one is around to share them. Or, you need help and dont have someone you trust to watch the kids for a short period of time. And the kids too, miss out on getting to know their extended family and on forging strong relationships with these people.
One of my New Years plans this year was to be more available for my long distance family. So far, I havent been doing such a great job. But I plan to! The more time goes on, the faster my kids grow up, the more I realize just how important family is to a momspirational mother like me. You dont have to like everything about your loved ones, but they sure are easy to miss!
How do you stay in touch with long distance family members? Do you regret living so far away from your family?