Snooki on Her Living Arrangements
Snooki seems to be having the same feelings about her own current living situation. The reality star and her fiancé Jionni Lavalle live with Jionni’s parents and she recently opened up about her experience. She said, “The pros are, I mean, say me and Jionni want to go for a run together outside. His mother can watch the baby. Anytime we need help with Lorenzo, his mother can watch the baby. So that really helps us out a lot because once we move out and you know we need someone to watch the baby no one’s going to be there!”
When I was pregnant with our first child, I unexpectedly lost my job. At that point we were in a situation where I was not going to get a permanent job, I was six months pregnant and obviously showing, and my husband was about to quit his job to go to fire school full-time. After a lot of thought and discussion, we decided to sell our house and move in with my parents. We officially moved in the weekend before my scheduled induction.
While my parents have a rather large house and we had the whole upstairs to ourselves, it was a very difficult two years for us and my parents. After my maternity leave, I had gotten a temporary position and was moved to permanent after I gave birth; I went back to work while my husband took care of Preston during the day and went to school at night. Do not get me wrong, I love my parents and they did a really good job of respecting our role as parents and relished in having their first grandchild at home with them the first 18-months. However, the lack of privacy, sharing of space, constant togetherness and living as a family of three in a room over the garage took its toll. When we found out we were unexpectedly pregnant with our second child when Preston was only 6-months old, we decided it was time to move out as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the job market for fire fighters in Florida had taken a sharp down turn and when Grace was just two weeks old, we said goodbye to my husband as he went to Kansas for a new job – we would join him a month later.
There are some things I would not change about our time at my parent’s house, Preston and my parents have a special relationship and an extremely close bond, we had built-in babysitters and we were fortunate enough to have my parent there to help us while my husband finished school. If you asked my advice though I would not recommend the experience, balancing being the child of your parents while also being an adult with a family of your own is hard and while it did not ruin my husband’s relationship or mine with my family, it easily could have.
I'm guessing Snooki's situation is much like ours in it's challenges for privacy and balance in roles. While I do not understand how someone who has been paid a healthy sum for reality shows as well as making personal appearances and selling pretty much every detail of her life and pregnancy cannot afford a home of her own, I have some words of advice, move out now.
Have you ever lived with your parents as an adult? How did you cope with the dynamic that it brings?
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