Simplify Birthday Parties for Good With a Fiver Party
Birthday parties are, of course, a great way for kids to celebrate a special friend on their special day. Adults and kids alike usually look forward to cake and camaraderie. But, there is one aspect of parties that may cause consternation for the parents of the birthday child and the guests alike: The presents.
Parents of guests may not know what the birthday child wants or needs. They may not want to spend a lot, but feel as though they have to spend enough to show their appreciation. On the other hand, parents of the birthday child may not want their house filled with toys their child won't play with for very long, as well-intentioned as the gift-giver was. Some parents may try no-gift parties, but the birthday child may feel hurt if no one brings them a gift and a no-gift request also puts guests in the position of feeling awkward when they show up empty-handed.
Some ingenious parents have come up with a solution: The Fiver Party.
At a Fiver Party, instead of a gift, each child brings $5.00 to contribute to the cost of a big gift the child wants. The birthday child is told that the gift is from all of his friends. That's it. It's so simple!
The Fiver Party is gaining in popularity because it's a win-win.
Guests don't have to:
- Guess about what the birthday child wants
- Spend time shopping for a gift
- Spend a lot of money
Parents of the birthday child:
- Remove the focus of the party from gifts and put the focus where it belongs – on celebrating with friends
- Don't have to deal with clutter from an onslaught of toys at once
- Know that they are placing a financial burden on guests who may not have a lot of money to purchase a gift
Interested? Here are some tips to get started.
- If your child is old enough, explain the plan to him and why you think a Fiver Party would be fun.
- Discuss with your child what you think the fivers should go towards. If there is a toy you know your child would like, let him know that he will get what he wants and it will be from all his friends. Think outside of the box as well! If your child would really like a certain type of lesson or museum membership the fivers can go towards that as well.
- Let your guests know! There are many ways this can be worded, but something along the lines of “Your presence is the best present! This year we are asking that guests bring no gifts to Sam's party so we can put the focus on celebrating Sam turning 3! If you would like, please bring $5.00 towards a gift that will be from all his friends!” Or, try “No gifts please! Instead we are asking Sam's friends to contribute $5.00 towards a Children's Museum membership Sam can enjoy all year long.” If you know what your child would like ahead of time, sharing it with your guests is a nice thing to do so they know where their money is going.
- Know that some people will bring a gift anyway and that's alright. If guests express that they would like to bring a gift, try suggesting an alternative like having their child make a special drawing or making a card.
- If you are uncomfortable asking for cash, remember that you are asking for a much lower amount than most guests spend on gifts as well as saving them time. However, you can also request gift cards of no more than $5.00 as an alternative.
Would you consider having a Fiver Party?