Scientific Proof That Lazy Moms Are Good Moms
I have great news for lazy moms everywhere: you're on the right track.
This is especially great news for me, because I happen to be a lazy mom. I am not necessarily proud of this fact, but there it is. I feel like there are a lot of moms out there who are sprinting from activity to activity with their kids and work and volunteering and parties and I'm over here, just longing for that sweet, sweet moment I get to crawl in my bed at night and laugh at Instagram memes.
It's pathetic, I know, but I keep telling myself we all do what we gotta do at certain points in our lives and at this particular moment in my life, with four little kids, I am feeling like I'm kind of on survival mode, paddling desperately to stay afloat. I'm grateful for this experience in my life and I know each stage comes with its own challenges and joys, so it is what it is.
But in the meantime, I do feel a little bit guilty that I don't do “more” as a mom. I much prefer staying home and reading a good book to doing well, anything else. I love spending my days writing and thinking and reading and dreaming and actually right now, I'm cuddled up on the couch with a big blanket with a cup of coffee and I couldn't be happier.
And if you happen to be a mom like me, wondering if should feel guilty for luxuriating in your laziness, a new study is setting us free.
According to The Journal of Healthy Psychology, if you prefer lounging about and dreaming, it's actually just proof that you are very, very smart. Feel better, friends? Me too.
The study, aptly titled, “The physical sacrifice of thinking” explored how thinking really does take up energy — real energy — and for so-called “lazy” moms like us, there just isn't an enough energy in the body to do all the things with your body when your brain is busy working so hard.
“The overall findings showed that low-need-for-cognition individuals were more physically active,” the study concluded. Which, in translation, simply means, the more you think the less opportunity you may have for physical activity. It makes total sense in my book. Just think of how tired you are after a day of dealing with kids, the emotionally drained feeling you get. Mental exhaustion feels like physical exhaustion, right?
So I'm just going to declare that when we are in this hard season of life, when we're still trying to figure out how to combine work and motherhood and figuring out how take a shower with a screaming child around, we get a free pass to let our brain do some extra work.
Lazy moms, unite. We have nothing to be ashamed of any more.