When Should You Announce Your Pregnancy?
When I suspected that I was pregnant with my third child, I took a pregnancy test as early as possible. Somehow I just knew that those two lines were going to show up the second I peed on that stick.
And when they did, after texting my husband a picture of the positive pregnancy test (which he never got) I decided that I would keep this pregnancy under wraps for a bit. After announcing my previous two pregnancies almost hours after I took the test, I thought it would be a better idea to wait this time around. What’s all the rush for anyways, right? I wanted to make sure everything was progressing healthily and safely before I made any official announcement.
The next day, we were invited over to a family friend’s house for a dinner party. About 10 minutes into the evening, our lovely hostess offered me a glass of wine.
I opened my mouth to accept… and then remembered I was pregnant.
Recovering quickly, I did my best to appear nonchalant while politely declining the offer.
The hostess looked at me, her eyes narrowing.
“So when are you due?” she demanded.
Keeping your pregnancy on the down low can be difficult – excitement, inquiring family and friends, or in some cases, an apparent affinity for alcohol may speed along your announcement sooner than you may like.
So when is the right time to announce your pregnancy?
Traditionally, many times out of fear of miscarrying, many women have waited until the end of their first trimesters before announcing that they are expecting. Although she told her immediate family right away, Kathleen Reed waited to share the news publicly until she had seen a doctor. “We told other friends and family after our doctor appointment around 10 weeks,” she explained.
But now, The Herald Sun reports that more and more women are announcing their pregnancies earlier. With social media tracking our every move and an instant-results society, it makes sense that we would find it difficult to wait to announce our big news.
So what is the risk? The Mayo Clinic reports that between 15-20% of pregnancies will end in a miscarriage, typically during the first trimester, so if you are concerned about your risk of a miscarriage, it might be a good idea to speak to your doctor about your concerns. You might decide you would need public support, regardless of your pregnancy outcome.
In the end, go with the decision that makes you comfortable. Talk with your partner or your doctor about the best time to announce your pregnancy and try to balance legitimate concerns about your pregnancy with giving yourself permission to be excited.
Oh, and avoid dinner parties.
And inquiring hostesses.