Survey Says Having Three Kids is the Hardest
Monday, June 24th, 2013
Although I was a bit nervous to expand our brood to include three children, especially considering we would be outnumbered, I didn’t think too much about it. Sure, I knew it would be hard, but after two kids, I finally considered myself a bit wizened about the whole parenting experience.
And in many ways, my predictions were pretty accurate. Yes, it’s been crazy, but there is also a certain peace that comes with having three children. Basically, you learn that there is no perfect way to parent, sometimes kids just cry, and that all of those old people at the grocery store may be slightly annoying, but they are right — this time of little people really does go so quickly.
That being said, however, I will say that the addition of child #3 on the scene has made me feel slightly, well, insane. Some days I really wonder if I’ve lost my mind.
And as a survey done by TODAYmoms.com of over 7,000 moms discovered, I’m really not alone. Or crazy.
Having three kids is really just that hard.
Interestingly enough, the survey also found that although three children seems to be the magic maxed-out stress number, mothers who had more than three children actually reported lower levels of stress.
What's up with that?
One of my favorite authors, Danielle Bean, echoed the sentiment in her book Mom to Mom. Although Bean is a mother of eight – count `em – eight kids, she specifically states in the book that having three young children was harder than having eight. In the book she says that now, as a mother of eight, that she would “never” want to go back to her life as a mother of three young kids.
Although it’s hard to fathom, I totally get it.
There is just something about having three young children that seems so overwhelming at times. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact with the ages – three kids in a short span of time = three young kids. That means three times of everything; three shoes to get on, three sets of kid junk to lug out of the house, three car seats to help buckle. It’s a lot to juggle.
But having more kids also usually means having older kids. So not only have you evolved as a parent, but your older children have naturally learned to be more helpful, independent, and responsible.
Yes, having three kids might be incredibly stressful and a hard time in your life as a parent. But from the sounds of it, it does get better, guys.
Or you could just have more kids.
Apparently that seems to help too.
Photo credit: Chaunie Brusie/J & J Brusie Photography (located in FL)