Pregnancy and Men: Why Pregnancy is a Lot Like Watching Sports
As difficult as it must be to play in and lose a sports championship, I’ve often felt the agony of defeat is stronger for the fans.
Sure, I’ve experienced that competitive loss before as an amateur participant. But I have no way of knowing what it’s like to lose, say, the Super Bowl. Yet as painful as that numbing loss must feel, I still believe it’s harder to stomach for fans.
As much as fans can scream and support their teams, they really have no control over the situation on the field. It’s a feeling of powerlessness, of not being able to have a direct effect on the outcome. As invested as fans are in their team, as strong as they love and support their squad, as much as they ooze lifelong civic pride – the best they can do is sit and watch. And maybe pray.
All of this is a little bit what it’s like to for pregnancy and men. The dad-to-be can do plenty to cheer, motivate, and support his baby-carrying-wife. But ultimately it’s on her to deliver the trophy – er, baby. The dad-to-be can maintain a healthy diet and stay fit as much as he wants, but it will matter little to the baby’s immediate development. He can get rest and seek plenty of help from family to prepare for the arrival, but the baby will still come as planned. He can study birthing and practice all the breathing exercises until he’s blue in the face, but the apple will eventually fall from the tree.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s actually a lot a man can do by way of touch, action, preparation, studying, coaching, and so on. Dad-to-be can tell the mom-to-be how beautiful she is. He can take the majority of the load when it comes to domestic duties. And give her massages, and romanticize her. The list goes on and on.
But that dad-to-be probably would like to do more. He probably wouldn’t mind being a little more in the game, as opposed to sitting on the sidelines. Go ahead and laugh, but you’d be surprised how many men wouldn’t mind giving pregnancy a try, if called upon. And the comments I’ve heard were always made out of mutual respect, and in communion with the wife. That’s true empathy.
So, let’s not forget that dads have plenty to think about during pregnancy, too. It’s an emotional time that requires a lot of patience and understanding. Dads deserve some of that, as well.
And once you reach the championship moment together, all of it will make the thrill of victory that much sweeter.
Do you have any great pregnancy and men analogies?