Accepting Your Pregnant Body
When I see pictures of Kim Kardashian throughout her pregnancy, I have to admit that my first thought is something along the lines of, Now there’s a woman who doesn’t want to accept that she’s pregnant. The refusal to give up high heels or her trade-mark skin clothing makes me cringe—all I can think is how uncomfortable she must be—and it almost makes me sad to see her clinging to her definition of self as her former sex symbol status.
If anyone knows about having trouble accepting a pregnancy, it’s definitely me. I found out that I was pregnant with my oldest daughter while I was still in college and it was very difficult for me to accept, right up until her birthday.
Women cross a big line when they are pregnant; they are no longer living solely for themselves. Pregnancy is such a major time of personal upheaval and restructuring of roles. You have to figure out how to live with all of your “selves”—your personal non-mom self, your new self as a mother, and all of your other roles as a wife, partner, sister, friend. It’s incredibly difficult.
And in a world where women grow up so inherently with the belief that their worth is tied into their appearance, pregnancy opens up an entirely different can of worms. I can’t even imagine how difficult it has to be for someone like Kim Kardashian, who has pretty much rose to fame and created an entire empire out of the way she looks, to adjust to her physical appearance changing so drastically.
There must be a little bit of hurt and loss to adjust to, knowing that when she goes out in public, no one is looking at her as a desirable woman anymore. Pregnant women are taken, right? Off the market and forever marked as “Mom.”
And while I can certainly, certainly understood how difficult it might be to adjust to both the emotional and physical changes that pregnancy brings, I just have one thing to say to all my pregnant ladies, Kim included:
As a mother, you are entering a whole new world, one where your self-worth will no longer be limited to how small your waistline is or how great your hair looks.
Becoming a mother is one of the most freeing and empowering experiences you will ever have and it truly is a beautiful thing when you can give in and let pregnancy unfold as it was meant to.
Oh, and maxi dresses and flats can be cute and functional.