Pink Admits To Dry Spells In Her Sex Life and New Moms Everywhere Breathe a Sigh of Relief
Pink is making quite a name for herself as the “Cool Mom Everyone Wants To Be Friends With,” from her confessions about motherhood on everything from breastfeeding to how it's affecting her marriage.
And in typical Pink fashion, she recently made waves with one of her most refreshing and candid confessions about motherhood ever: there have been times in her marriage when she's gone without sex for an entire year.
Don't believe me? Here's her quote from an interview with The Guardian about marriage with her husband, Hart:
“There are moments where I look at [Hart] and he is the most thoughtful, logical, constant … he’s like a rock. He’s a good man. He’s a good dad. He’s just the kind of dad I thought he’d be and then some. And then I’ll look at him and go: I’ve never liked you. There’s nothing I like about you. We have nothing in common. I don’t like any of the shit you like. I don’t ever wanna see you again. Then two weeks later I’m like, things are going so good, you guys. Then you’ll go through times when you haven’t had sex in a year. Is this bed death? Is this the end of it? Do I want him? Does he want me?”
Pink laid it all out there, like she normally does and moms everywhere breathed a sigh of relief. Because I don't know about you, but there is something incredibly comforting in hearing a celebrity mom, one who has money and access to resources and a housecleaner and chefs and trainers and pretty much all of the help that us regular soccer moms don't have, is still too freaking tired to have sex with her husband.
I mean, really, that's what it comes down to, doesn't it? I feel like it's so pathetic, but that's what life feels like as a mom–that anything, and I do mean anything (eating peanut butter out of the jar, scrolling Instagram, laying on my kids' floor because I fall asleep at bedtime instead of them) feels more important than jumping into bed and doing anything but sleeping. It's actually incredibly hard sometimes, because you start to feel so guilty and then wonder if something is wrong with you or your marriage or if you're just the only person in the world who has dry spells. But as it would turn out, you're (we're?) not! I mean, I can't say that I have gone an entire year without doing the deed, but even if I had, I don't think that would be totally abnormal for a mom with little kids, right?
If Pink can admit it, we can too: keeping the spark alive is freaking hard in marriage after you have kids. And what might have been “sexy” a few years ago may not be what revs your engine these days. Maybe it's your partner doing the dishes or giving a back rub that is really what makes up your fantasies instead of spending hours locked up in a bedroom together. But that's OK.
Personally, it helps me to hear about other people's marriages because my husband and I have struggled in ours; with every baby life has to be “relearned” again and there are so many stressful events that happen along the way. Especially as we get older, life seems harder and harder, but I can also see some light at the end of the tunnel as our kids get a bit older too.
The point is, hang in there, parents! A dry spell doesn't mean forever and it doesn't mean that you are damaged. If Pink can separate from her husband, go without sex for a year, but still keep rocking, you can too.